I dedicate this afternoon’s seasonal song to everyone who is fortunate enough to be spending this Christmas with their soulmate and sweetheart.
I have often wondered about the origin of the term ‘soulmate’. The best concept I have ever been able not come up with is a pair of wedded angels disguised as human lovers having a heavenly holiday. Whatever a soulmate is, there is no doubt what a soulmate does within a relationship. One thing that is certain about the effect a soulmate can have on their partner is the confirmation of their worth. No one can know their own beauty or perceive a sense of their own true worth until it has been reflected through the mirror of another loving, caring human being. It is only when one recognises the loving traits of their partner in themselves that enables each to perceive the two of them as being one.
The term ‘soulmates’ is an often overused and undeserving description of a loving relationship between two sweethearts. Having a physical and emotional bond between a loving couple, however strong, is never enough to accurately describe the pair as being ‘soulmates’. The start of the word (soul) indicates that much more than the earthly physical dimension is required to make the couple eternal mates. The ultimate death of one ends their earthly partnership forthwith, even though the deceased person lives on in the memory of their bereaved partner. It is only when a spiritual dimension exists alongside both the physical and emotional dimensions that the criteria for being soulmates exist. It is only when an afterlife beyond their earth life is believed in by both lovers that they can ever become ‘soulmates’.
“What’s the difference between the love of your life, and your soulmate?” I hear some couples who cannot conceive in an afterlife ask, no doubt believing that I am merely playing with words. My answer is “The former is a choice, and the latter is not. It is the difference between ‘choosing’ and ‘happening’!”
People are too eager to experience ‘lasting love’ that they do not even possess the patience to wait for the right person to come along. They invariably settle for commitment to another in the hope that they can become a satisfactory lifelong partner, whom they may loosely refer to in the passing as ‘being their soulmate’. Their loving relationship is most unlikely to be perfect in all regards, and it is probable that either partner will desire changes to take place in the behaviour of the other before full satisfaction is felt by them. In this respect, each/one of the pair is perceived by the other at the commencement of their loving relationship as being a ‘project in the making’ where a positive change in behaviour is sought. Anyone who has ever experienced a genuine soulmate would not ever want to change any part of them as there would be no need!
Wishing you all a Merry Christmas. Love and peace Bill and Sheila xxx