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Song For Today: 31st July 2019

31/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Green Door’. ‘Green Door’ was a 1956 song with music composed by Bob ‘Hutch’ Davie and lyrics written by Marvin Moore. The song was first recorded by Jim Lowe, whose version reached Number 1 on the US pop chart. The lyrics describe the allure of a mysterious private club with a green door, behind which ‘a happy crowd play piano, smoke and "laugh a lot’, and inside which the singer is not allowed.

In the United Kingdom, Lowe's version reached Number 8 on the charts, but a version by Frankie Vaughan was even more popular, reaching Number 2. Another UK recording, by Glen Mason, reached Number 24 on the UK chart. The most popular British version was by rock and roll revivalist Shakin Stevens which spent four weeks at Number 1 in August 1981. The song has been covered by many other artists.

Possible inspirations for the song are numerous. One source believes that after the ‘Great Chicago Fire’, a tavern opened in Chicago known as the ‘Green Door Tavern’. The period was during prohibition and ‘The Green Door Tavern’ was the place to get secret libations. Thereafter, the colour green became a symbol of a speakeasy. Another plausible suggestion of the song's origins is that it was inspired by an after-hours club in Dallas, Texas, to which lyricist Moore had been refused entry because he did not know the correct password. 

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This song was released during a nine-month period of my life when I was a patient at Batley Hospital (long since closed) following a serious traffic accident that left me unable to walk and with multiple life-threatening injuries. Long before Shakin Stevens was to cover the song in 1981, I would regularly see Frankie Vaughan on the hospital television in top hat and tails, end each chorus hollering , ‘Green Door’ as he kicked his legs high in the air like a can-can dancer who couldn’t show off enough of their frilly undercarriage to the admiring onlooker. As Frankie’s leg headed towards the ceiling, he’d bounce the silver-topped cane he held as hard as he could off the floor, always catching it on the rebound. How I used to watch and wait for him to drop the cane as he twirled it between his fingers and bounced it off the floor, but being the accomplished performer, he was, he never missed catching the cane as it twirled and bounced.

The name of the song, ‘Green Door’ instantly appealed to me as my father had painted the door to our newly acquired council house on Windybank Estate green shortly after our family had moved in there two years earlier. This was at a time when all council doors on the estate were painted the same colour (a mucky brown shade) and which tenants were forbidden from painting a different colour to their neighbours. My father, mother, myself and sisters Mary and Eileen were Irish migrants who came to England during the ‘First World War’ years. Dad worked down the coal mines and mum looked after the house and the seven children she was to have (I was her firstborn).

My father was a man of limited formal education, strict in all his disciplines and constant in his tastes and values. There was only one colour this Irish rebel could ever favour and that was ‘green’; the only colour of any true Irish man. The front door was painted green by him, along with the front gate, the shed door and every other wooden door and kitchen surface inside the house; even the old wooden kitchen table. He even painted the old wooden radio which stood on a kitchen working surface all my childhood and teenage years, green! This was the radio that the family would listen to nightly, and for years after my father had painted it, my mother would complain every time she tried to read the stations behind the green paint splashes dad had left on the plastic dial.

Other aspects outside the house that couldn’t be painted, like the back and front lawns and the box-tree hedge surround that my father faithfully trimmed weekly after his own trip to the local barber, didn’t need painting. They blended naturally with all the other shades of green that surrounded the Forde household. I now know why dad ate so much cabbage and why the large expanse of fields and meadows off the estate, and where we would play daily, was called ‘Green Lane’.

So, you see, I never really wondered what went on behind the ‘Green Door’ as I lived there at 19, Eighth Avenue, Windybank Estate, with my parents and six siblings between the ages of 9-26 when I got married.
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Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 30th July 2019

30/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Something’s Making Me Blue’. This is a song by the British rock band ‘Smokie’ from their 1976 studio album ‘Midnight Café’. It first came out in January 1976 as a single and later appeared on the album, which was released in April. The song was written and produced by Nicky Chinn and Mike Chapman.

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Let me say from the outset, that although I have never once been depressed or blue myself, I have known this debilitating condition in others in my role as a Probation Officer, in the lives of neighbours and a few friends, and even in my own family circle.

I was 33 years old when this song was first released and had just started my career in Huddersfield as a Probation Officer three years earlier. It should have been one of the happiest periods in my life having fathered my first child James two years earlier in 1974 and then my second son, Adam in 1976. I had always wanted a family of my own, and like all Irish men who consider the woman of the house as the mainstay of family life, I was no different in my marital expectations. I wanted a wife who would be a good marriage partner and a natural loving and caring mother to our children.

However, mere days after each of our two sons were born, my wife literally refused to have any contact with either child. Being born an Irish man of Roman Catholic persuasion, I found this response in any mother wholly inexplicable. There was no name for the condition at the time for a mother who had recently given birth to a child but who seemed to be devoid of all emotional attachment to the infant.

Between their first week of life and their respective ages of five years and three and a half years (when my wife insisted on our separation), I fed, washed, clothed, bedded, exercised, and nursed both of our sons wholly unaided by my wife. This most unusual situation didn’t depress me, but it did puzzle me greatly how any mother could abandon care for her new-born infant/infants. The most prominent emotions I felt were confusion mixed with anger and frustration and disappointment, along with my inability to help my wife whatever I did. The more I attempted to bring her closer to our children, the farther she drew away from them.

It was only in later years that we understood the condition she was suffering with was ‘pre-natal depression’ (a depressive condition that was outside her control). It was only then that I came to understand why she had responded in such an emotionally detached manner with our new-born infants.

I never wanted to usurp any part of my wife’s role as our children’s mother, but when it became apparent that she didn't attend to their needs, I had to. I had no other option and felt obliged to undertake the twin roles of both mother and father and the sole role of carer and parental provider of their daily needs.
All I knew was that I had to do whatever the children needed doing at the time they needed it, and as their mother ‘wouldn’t (or as it transpired) ‘couldn’t' do it, I had to step in and carry out her traditional role in every possible regard. I didn’t mind being both father and mother to our two children, but inwardly, I now know that I must have deeply resented it.

The song ‘Something’s Making Me Blue’ that was released about this time would constantly remind me of my wife’s depressive illness and the ‘blue world’ she inhabited of which I had insufficient understanding to truly help her.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 29th July 2019

29/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Angel of The Morning’ which I dedicate to my niece Clare who is my brother Patrick’s daughter and who lives in Cleckheaton. This popular song was written and composed by Chip Taylor in 1966 and has been recorded numerous times by various artists including Merrilee Rush: Evie Sands: Juice Newton: Nina Simone: Olivia Newton-John: The Pretenders: Chrissie Hynde: Dusty Springfield: Bonnie Tyler The New Seekers and Crystal Gayle to name but a few of the more notable versions.

'Angel of the Morning’ was originally offered to Connie Francis, but she turned it down because she thought that it was too risqué for her image, as the song's narrator describes her feelings about a ‘one-night stand’: "If morning's echo says we've sinned, well, it was what I wanted now."

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​When I worked in a Brighouse mill between the ages of 27-30 years, before I entered to train as a Probation Officer, the workers always had a tale to tell when we held our tea breaks. One of the men whose stories always attracted an audience was a man called Albert who was approaching retirement years. In brief, prior to his 24th year when he wed, Albert had lived a life of licentiousness, wickedness, drunkenness, gambling and debauchery. He lived hard and played hard, as we say in Yorkshire, but once he married, he no longer played at all and lived harder than ever before.

Albert, like many a man, was swayed by the attractive features of a woman who seemed to offer him everything he ever wanted were he to settle down into married life. Within a year, he had converted to Methodism and all its inherent disciplines. His life had changed more than he could have ever imagined. I’ll never forget the time he told a group of us, “She will only do it once a week and the rest of the nights are spent by me looking at her asleep, afraid to touch and disturb her. My bed has become a prison where I look but can’t touch. It’s the mornings I hate most of all, though. At night she looks angelic as she sleeps with her hands clasped in constant prayer, but when I look at her first thing in the morning before I get up and make her a cupper, I don’t see any bargain marriage brought me; I can’t see no angel at my side for the life left in me!” (some are my remembered words given the long passage of time that has lapsed but is accurately representative of Albert’s message).

Whenever I hear this song, it reminds me of Albert, the ex-cricketer who would often play the field between Bradford, Brighouse and Halifax and who never missed an easy catch but caught a googly when he married his wife.

I dedicate today’s song to the daughter of my brother Patrick; my niece Clare. Clare is one of my nieces who keeps very much to herself and I cannot remember how long it has been now since we have seen each other ( caused more by my absence of any effective immune system which has largely stopped me attending large family gatherings for the past four years). Have a nice birthday, Clare, with your family and loved ones. Love and peace Uncle Billy and Sheila.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 28th July 2019

28/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Solitaire’. This a ballad that was written by Neil Sedaka and Phil Cody. Cody employs playing the card game of ‘solitaire’ as a metaphor for a man ‘who lost his love through his indifference’. The song is best known by its rendition by the Carpenters.

Neil Sedaka recorded "Solitaire" as the title cut for a 1972 album. Both Tonie Christy and Petula Clark had album releases with this song. ‘Solitaire’ had its first evident single release in February 1973 as recorded by ‘The Searchers’; however, it was an autumn 1973 single by Andy Williams which would reach Number 4 in the ‘UK Singles Chart’ and afford Williams a Number 1 hit in South Africa.

The Carpenters recorded "Solitaire" for the 1975 ‘Horizon’ album. Richard Carpenter, who was familiar with the song via the versions by Neil Sedaka and Andy Williams, was ‘not crazy’ about the song, but he felt it would showcase Karen Carpenter’s vocal expertise. Despite assessing her vocal performance on ‘Solitaire’ as "one of [her] greatest", Richard says that "she never liked the song [and]...she never changed her opinion”. It hit Number 17 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ and was their least successful single since ‘Bless the Beasts and Children’ in 1971 It signalled a downturn in the group's popularity, but ‘Solitaire’ did afford the Carpenters their twelfth of fifteen Number 1 ‘Easy Listening’ hits.
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I am sure that (unlike the message of the song) ‘I have ever lost love through my indifference’. There have been many times in my life when events and circumstances have obliged me to act alone, be alone, or prefer to be on my own. Ever since I incurred a serious traffic accident at the age of 11 years that crippled me and left me close to death with multiple injuries and unable to walk for almost three years, I have not followed the general path of my peer group, and have instead occupied my body and mind with more adult preoccupations for one of my prevailing age.

I needed to spend my years 11-14 learning to walk again and learning to control my constant high pain levels that my shattered legs had left me with, and which has never ceased throughout my life thereafter. This involved me embarking on a self-learning course of several eastern disciplines and meditational methods such as progressive relaxation, transcendental meditation, Indian Dance (for balance) self-hypnosis, breathing exercises and imagination exercises. I had to obtain numerous specialised books, read them and understand them, at a time when the library was the only resource for obtaining out-of-the-ordinary information (1954-1957). I essentially needed to learn how the mind and body connected functioned independently and together. I particularly needed to know how mental and psychological approaches could be used to one’s long-term benefit and how they related to one’s belief system. This essential meant reading medical and body/mind literature.

I had discovered during my nine-month period of hospitalisation that I had a high IQ after one of my schoolteachers arranged to have me Mensa tested. These tests essentially confirmed that I didn’t think in the same way as most peers and that most of my communication images were abstract ones (essentially conveying that I thought in pictures and images as opposed to words and actions). I was to discover that approaching all manner of situations from a different angle and perspective to most people is a great advantage in most problem-solving situations.

Most of the latter half of my teens were spent in the company of mates who were much older than me. I found myself being more comfortable in the presence and company of fully-grown adults as I needed the stimulation of adult conversation which my peer group couldn’t supply. Don’t get me wrong, I still liked to go out with, drink with, dance with, womanise and fight alongside my own age range. However, regarding my relationships with females, I always felt better having a liaison with an older woman than with a girl of my own age. Where dancing was concerned, however, I preferred a young woman of my own age who could strut her stuff on the dance floor.

By the age of 18 years, I had distinguished myself as being the youngest Shop Steward in Great Britain when a workforce of over 300 men and women at Harrison Gardeners in Liversedge elected me as their work’s representative. Six months before my 19th birthday, I became the youngest paid part-time Youth Leader in the country. Between my 18th and 20th year of life, I would spend part of my weekend as a St. Vincent De Paul volunteer with the church visiting the sick and the dying in a Cheshire Home in Cleckheaton. By the age of 21, I travelled to Canada alone where I lived and worked for the better part of two years. By 23 years of age, I was a textile foreman and by the age of twenty-six, I’d become a mill manager on nights. Between the age of 26 and 30, I went to night school three nights weekly after my day’s work had been done and obtained the ‘O’ and ‘A’ Level certificates I needed as a mature student to enter university. In order to do this and institute a career change, I relinquished my mill manager’s job on nights and returned to a semi-skilled post in a Brighouse textile factory.

From 21 years onwards, I have usually preferred my own company plus ‘one other’ as opposed to a group of friends. By twenty-one years of age, I had established myself as a truly independent man.

By the age of 30 years, I abandoned my idea of becoming a History Teacher and decided instead that I would be more suitable as a Probation Officer having been a ‘poacher turned gamekeeper’, so to speak. I soon discovered as a new Probation Officer that my training had in no way equipped me to handle the situations of the clients I was expected to deal with by helping them to stop doing the criminal things they were doing, especially when their behaviour was often beyond the conscious control of their bodies. Many offenders were addicted to either drink or drugs (alcohol was the most prevalent addiction of many offenders during the early 1970s and drugs would not become so until the 80s onwards).

The upshot of this was that I was to do my own research on client’s response patterns over the next twenty years, and develop practical ways of genuinely helping to change criminal behaviour (especially when such behaviour was displayed involuntarily like spontaneous aggressive outbursts leading to violent action or sexual impulses that some clients could not prevent themselves acting upon). Between the ages of 30-50, I would work, work and work; forever researching and learning as I kept up with the latest advancements in physical response patterns and mind-body interconnections.

The upshot was that I became the founder and pioneer of ‘Anger Management’, a process and discipline that I essentially stumbled across and which I freely gave to the world. Within two years (1972-74) ‘Anger Management Groups’ based on my research and work had mushroomed across the English-speaking world.

A few years later, I had become the first Probation Officer in England and Wales to introduce Relaxation Training into Prisons; and during the 80s, I ran ‘Relaxation and Assertion Training Courses’ for Life Prisoners in a woman’s prison in Wakefield. A few years later I also operated relaxation groups for male s in H.M.P. Wakefield. By the 90s, I was running Relaxation Training courses in Hospitals, Hostels, Psychiatric establishments, Probation Offices, Educational establishments, Churches, Prisons, and Community Halls. I even provided Relaxation Training input on training courses for psychologists, nurses, psychiatric nurses, psychiatric patients, probation officers, police cadets and firemen trainees all over Yorkshire.

Throughout my entire career, while I would naturally mix with colleagues in the pub or staff room during coffee breaks. I must admit, however, although I was a political animal, I never allowed what was happening out there in the world to interfere with and affect whatever was going on inside my head. I was simply too involved with my own work and research findings. I had made my Probation career a vocation as opposed to a job.

There have been many occasions when I have stood alone against the majority opinion, and I can resist all force except the force of logic. Were I a prisoner, I could probably survive five years in solitary confinement? I’d certainly make out, were I shipwrecked and the sole survivor on a desert island. Although sometimes headstrong, I am not immune to changing my own behaviour whenever required. All anyone in dispute with me needs to do is to show me where I am wrong in either thought or deed and I will instantly change either.

There is a game that psychologists sometimes play by asking you to identify an animal or a car that you think most resembles you and your personality. Were a psychologist to ask me which game best resembled and reflected my personality throughout most of my life, it would undoubtedly have been the game of ‘Solitaire’.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 27th July 2019

27/7/2019

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Today’s song is dedicated to my best mate and life-long buddy Tony Walsh from Carrick-on-Suir, County Tipperary, Ireland. The song is ‘All Shook Up’. It was recorded by Elvis Presley, published by Elvis Presley Music, and composed by Otis Blackwell. The single topped the U.S. ‘Billboard Hot 100’ on April 13, 1957, staying there for eight weeks. It also topped the ‘Billboard R&B Chart’ for four weeks, becoming Presley's second single to do so, and peaked at No. 1 on the country chart as well.]It is certified 2× Platinum by the RIAA. The song was ranked Number 352 on Rolling Stone’s list of the ‘500 Greatest Songs of All Time’. 
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Around the time that this song was released in 1957, I was a teenager aged 14 years old. Two and a half years earlier I’d been trapped under a lorry and incurred multiple and life-threatening injuries. For nearly one month I was at death's door and my damaged spine led the hospital doctor to tell my parents, ‘Even if he lives, Mr and Mrs Forde, which is most unlikely, I’m afraid he’ll never walk again!”

When I was at my worst and in a semi-comatose state, my father promised he would buy me any present I wanted if I lived through my ordeal. When I became fully conscious and did live, remembering my father’s promise made on my hospital death bed, I told him that he could buy me a new bicycle. Prior to my accident, my father had purchased a rusty, second-hand bicycle for ten shillings at Cleckheaton Market Place. The bicycle had no mudguards and only one brake; the front brake (which is the most dangerous if only one brake is available for use when cycling at speed). I asked my father to buy me a brand-new Raleigh bicycle with a Sturmey Archer three-speed that made it easier to cycle uphill. Being a man who never broke a promise in his life and a man whose word was his bond, he smiled and acceded to my request.

Despite having been told by the medics that I would never walk again, he kept his promise. This was a promise he could ill afford, in order to buy me a new bicycle that he’d been medically told that I’d never be able to ride. He only retained ten shillings per week spending money from his wage packet that was always handed to my mother over unopened, and the bicycle I had specified could only be purchased on the ‘never never’ (hire purchase) by him. It would use up most of his weekly spending money for a couple of years. I even recall after I had been discharged from hospital overhearing a conversation between dad and mum. My dad said, "I’ve bought him a brand-new bike, Maureen, that he can only look at in the hallway". Mum replied, "You promised him a new bike, Paddy. No matter what use he gets or never gets out of it!”

By the time I’d left the hospital after nine months as an in-patient, I had regained the sensation of pain in the lower half of my body beneath my waistline. For reasons that the medics could not explain, my spine was again sending signals to activate my body below my legs. I was now able to move and wriggle my badly damaged legs, even though there were no prospects offered that I’d ever be able to mobilise them into action again. I’d had dozens of operations performed in breaking and re-setting my twisted legs so that I wouldn’t be left looking physically deformed.

I refused to become a bedridden son in my mother’s house and learned to stand up over the months ahead and support my weight on a kitchen surface or tabletop; whichever was to hand. My father made up a bunker (Go- Cart) for me to be pulled around in by my sisters, Mary and Eileen. This was a box made in chariot-style design from old wood where I could sit upright. Supporting the weight of the passenger being pulled was an undercarriage made from a plank of wood that was somehow attached to four Silver Cross pram wheels, along with a steering wheel that could turn the two front pram wheels in different directions. There was, however, no brake system; presumably as dad did not know how to attach one. For six months I would be pulled around Windy Bank Estate by my sisters in my bunker (Go-Cart). My bunker became my chariot of freedom that would get me out of the house.

My gradual progression over the next six months witnessed me slowly walk if my two sisters were prepared to sling one of my arms over their shoulders as they supported my body weight. There were times, however, when they would get fed up with humping me around the estate when they could have been having fun elsewhere. Whenever this occurred, they would simply abandon me on a low-level wall, and run off laughing loudly. They would naturally return, but it could be an hour later!

One year after leaving the hospital, while I still couldn’t walk unassisted, I wondered if the part movement of my legs would enable me to pedal a bicycle; my own brand-new unridden bicycle with its top of the range Sturmey Archer three-speed. I asked my father to lift me on the bicycle and he pushed me like a parent might support their five-year-old child learning to cycle for the first time. This was when I discovered the disadvantage of having one leg three inches shorter than the other. I could turn my longest leg (my right leg) one full rotation with its pedal but was unable to do anything with my short left-leg that had been left in a position of semi-use; being unable to bend it beyond 70 degrees or straighten fully. So, while I could place my right foot on the pedal when it was at its lowest point of rotation and propel it one full revolution, I could only place my left foot on the pedal after it was in a nine-fifteen clock position, and then sharply remove my left foot as the pedal rotated back upwards. Should I not time this removal accurately, because my left leg wouldn’t bend or straighten far enough, it would create a jolting pain. My father added a pad on the left-hand-side pedal to make up for the deficiency in leg length to my left leg. Now, I was able to rotate a full 360-degree cycle of the pedal with my right foot and when the left pedal approached my 70-degree maximum bend on my short leg, I would need to speedily remove it until the pedal had lowered once more.

It took me around one month before I was able to cycle to the bottom of the avenue where I lived unaided. At first, I would falter and fall from the bicycle and I would ask my dad to re-mount me in the saddle. From my bedroom window at the rear of the house, I could see the towering monument on Castle Hill in Huddersfield, some seven miles away. I would look towards Castle Hill and vowed that I would one day cycle there and back home!

Every day I went out on my bicycle without fail whatever the weather. My father worked as a miner for a living and my mother was always too busy looking after her home and growing family. After being mounted on my bicycle, I would have to look out for myself. I would cycle as far as I could before I fell off the bike (usually when I had to stop at a T-junction or crossroad). When this happened, I would simply wait on the ground until some strong-armed man came along, helped me to my feet and lifted me back into the saddle. If he refused, I would simply be piggybacked home in shame by a passing broad-backed stranger.

To overcome the risk of falling from my bike when it almost stopped or was brought to a stand-still was eventually made possible after I explained the problem to my dad. He changed the mechanism (or got someone else to change it) to a fixed-gear system of rotation. This change allowed me to better control my speeding up and slowing down and stopping. In a short span of time, I became like a trick cyclist who could bring their bike to a three-minute stand-still and keep it under control without falling off.

I continued to set out daily on my bike, whatever the weather was like. You must bear in mind that the volume of traffic on the roads in 1956 was nothing like as congested as one experiences today. The closer I got to Castle Hill, the better I was becoming at being able to hobble about unaided and no longer needed to have assistance when mounting my bike. I was well into my 14th year of life, going on 15, the day I arrived at the base of Castle Hill. I cried with pleasure and started to cycle back home to tell my mother that I’d made it. Halfway home as I passed the ICI Chemical Works at Bradley, I suddenly realised that both my feet had completed the full rotation of the pedal cycle. It hurt like hell, but I'd done it!

It was at that moment that I shed the happiest of tears that ever streamed down the cheeks of my face. I cried so much as I peddled home to tell my mother that my body tremored with sheer happiness. I was ‘All Shook Up’, and every time I hear this song it reminds me of that eventful year in my life before my fifteenth birthday when I cycled 7 miles to Castle Hill and 7 miles back home!

It was a few years later that I met Tony Walsh and we became the closest of buddies. I dedicate this song to my best-mate, Tony Walsh from Carrick-on-Suir in County Tipperary. This Elvis number was one of his favourites when we were teenage buddies.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 26th July 2019

26/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Where Do I Begin’, which I dedicate to my friend Sarah Bowden of ‘Wutherin’ Arts’ in Haworth, and whose birthday we celebrate today.

This song was published in 1970 The music was by Francs Lai and the lyrics were written by Carl Sigman. The song was first introduced as an instrumental theme in the 1970 film, ‘ Love Story’ after the film's distributor, ‘Paramount Pictures’ rejected the first set of lyrics that were written. Andy Williams eventually recorded the new lyrics and took the song to Number 9 on ‘Billboard Hot 100’ and Number 1 on their ‘Easy Listening Chart’.

Before the film opened in theatres on December 25, 1970, the recording of ‘Theme from Love Story’ by Henry Mancini was released as a single and made its debut. Two versions of ‘(Where Do I Begin?) Love Story’—one by Andy Williams and one by Tony Bennett—were released on January 15, 1971, and an article in the magazine's January 23 issue tried to explain the gap between releases of the instrumental and vocal versions as ‘intentional’. The logic behind the decision was that “only the instrumental version should hit the market before the picture's release, and that the vocal version should be held up until several weeks after the film's release so that 'the theme and the image of ‘Love Story’ would be implanted in the audience's mind.'” The Mancini version spent two of its 16 weeks on the ‘Easy Listening Chart’ at Number 2. 

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I will never forget seeing this film early in my first marriage and I must confess of not audibly hearing so many people cry before in one pleasurable gathering. Rows after row of sobbing cinema goers could be heard and seen, and weepers crossed the sexual gap between men and women in equal measure. I’d bet my bottom dollar that there wasn’t a dried-eyed patron in the cinema as the final credits rolled. As patrons left their seats to enter the outside world, I can recall seeing couples hold each other’s hands a little tighter in reassurance than when they entered the cinema and one could hardly fail to notice the constant dabbing of their tearful eyes with their handkerchiefs.

This excellent film dealt with the most heart-breaking of subjects; the death of a loved one early on in their union. The dying woman was still young with so much life before her that she would never know. Her bereaved partner was left to face his future life without his one true love, heartbroken and unable to effectively communicate emotionally with his father.

As a 76-year-old man who has had a number of cancers over the past eight years ( four cancers in total and one Lymphoma, and one of them being a terminal blood cancer), I sympathise greatly with those happy couples who lose a partner to some incurable illness or condition so early into their relationship. There is a pathos in any situation that sees a couple struck down at the height of their happiness. How much worse it even is when the children die young with fatal cancers; young ones who have not yet tasted life of any substance?

Where does such heartache begin, we ask ourselves? The answer is where all heartbreak begins; with the heart itself. The greatest prize on earth is ‘to love’ and to ‘be loved in return’. The cruel reality is that to obtain this ultimate prize, we must open our hearts to all possibilities; and by so doing, make ourselves vulnerable to disappointment, even to the point of heartbreak itself. Being the highest of human prizes ever attainable necessitates taking the greatest of all emotional risks that loving another brings with it.

Today is my friend, Sarah Bowden’s birthday. Being a gentleman, I won’t reveal her age, only to say that she looks ten years younger than she actually is. Her husband George is my favourite Howarth-based painter and I have several of his fine works hanging on my walls. Sarah and George have an art shop on Main Street in Howarth, that is certainly worth popping into if you walk up Main Street.The couple have been happily married many years. Enjoy your birthday Sarah. Love Bill and Sheila x
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Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 25th July 2019

25/7/2019

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Today’s song is dedicated to my good neighbours and allotment buddies Brian and V’ron. This is a popular American song written in 1934, with music by Cole Porter and lyrics by Robert Fletcher and Cole Porter. Members of the ‘Western Writers of America’ chose it as one of the ‘Top 100 Western Songs of All Time’. Although it was one of the most popular songs of its time, Porter claimed it was the least favourite of his compositions. 
Roy Rogers sang ‘Don’t Fence Me In’ in the 1944 movie, ‘Holiday Canteen’ and sang it again in the 1944 film of the same name. Other singers to cover the song have included Bing Crosby: The Andrew Sisters: Frank Sinatra: Ella Fitzgerald: Frankie Laine: Harry Connick Jr: Gene Autry: Ray Benson and Willie Nelson to name but a few.

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My best friend currently is a close neighbour, Brian and his wife V’ron. Brian has the allotment across from mine and Sheila’s and knowing of my inability to engage in any arduous activity, he frequently helps me to do the things that my body no longer allows me to do. I have recently started joining Brian and three others for a few drinks and a good natter at a local pub in Haworth on a Thursday night for a couple of hours before bedtime.

One of the things that makes Brian and me natural companions who find each other’s presence pleasurable and each other’s conversation stimulating and interesting is that we are both frank and honestly expressive in our view. Neither of us suffers fools gladly. We both like a good laugh and enjoy telling a good tale that is born in truth and has lived its life so far without too much varnishing and embellishment throughout the years to make it ‘untrue’ today.

Brian takes an active interest in everything and everybody that moves and breathes in Haworth and can tell you who did what, where and when and who lived here or there during the many years he has lived in Haworth. Some old-timers would consider Brian to be the person who knows where all the dead bodies are buried in and around Haworth. His uncanny nose has led him to learn about the many extra-marital relationships in Haworth by bored wives seeking another outlet during their husband’s absence at the pub and dissatisfied husbands who still like to carry on with the ladies as though they were thirty years younger when everything else is telling them to cool down and ‘take a cold shower’.

In short, Brian knows all! He knows who was found out by their abandoned partner, those who put their hands up when caught with their pants down and promises never to stray again, and those whose secret liaisons with another outside marriage commenced-continued-concluded without a soul ever discovering (all except Brian of course). Brian knows everyone and has more friends than anyone I know. I often wonder if some of these friends are of the ‘fair-weather’ type, who deliberately keep Brian close to their affections so that ‘he will never spill the beans’ to their partners about ‘their darkest of indiscretions’ with the opposite sex?

Having only lived in Haworth for less than ten years, I am still considered a newcomer in the community. I naturally rely on Brian to bring me up to speed as to what is and isn’t done in our community. Our recent brush with the Parish Council was for the rights of allotment holders to fly their flag in their plots of land. I fly the flag of St. George and the Irish Tricolor in my allotment, along with the flag of County Waterford to show my allegiance and respect for the two countries I love and the county in which I was conceived and born. Brian, on the other hand, changes his flags with the regularity of a deceitful politician addressing their electorate. He will often fly half a dozen flags in his allotment and has flown the flags of the Jolly Roger, the Knight Templar, the Tolpuddle Martyrs, the Cornish Tin Miners, the Luddites and even Popeye and Scooby-Doo! Tourists to Haworth occasionally raise the odd eyebrow as they observe Brian’s flags of defiance flying high as they pass by viewing all the cultural aspects that Haworth has to offer.

Brian is ten years younger than me. His is nothing short of ‘walking kindness’. He has a friendliness of spirit and his warmth of heart embodies the best a person can be. He is always on hand to help out another. Had we been cowboys in a previous century, I could so easily have seen us sleeping beneath the stars and eating and singing around the campfire, telling tales into the early morning hours. Brian spent many years of his life doing a wide variety of jobs, many of them in the fresh air or on the open road. He always had a good word to say for most folk and is the holder of Haworth secrets that he will take with him to his grave.

Fifty years ago, Brian was in Ireland, making hay in Farmer Grogan’s field and minding his own business when another a female field worker approached him. Her name was V’ron and as far as physical attributes went, she was a stunner with ‘come to bed eyes’. After a brief encounter behind the haystack, not wishing to lose this prize which had fallen into her hands, V’ron uttered the very same words as my Sheila spoke to me the very first moment we met: ‘I’m having you!” Another thing Brian and I share is that it was our wives-too-be who approached us, chatted us up and were even the ones to pop the question! And they even paid for the marriage licence!

My buddy Brian and I have both spent our earlier years before settling down with our loving wives, as free as the birds; taking ourselves here and there as and when we wanted and doing our own thing that best appealed. We experienced unfettered freedom that all men would love to live, but which, sadly, most men will never know. Having enjoyed so much freedom for so long before we met ‘the last love of our lives’, neither of us wanted to jump into a binding contract we could not easily escape from if everything went tits up. We eventually accepted their proposal of marriage and have been happy ever since with two loving wives who understand us completely.

Both Brian and I resent officialdom and the issuing of petty rules which serve nobody except the wankers who proudly issue them. We don’t like awkward folk, respond to unfair expectations and cannot stand liars seeking to impress. Mostly, neither of us will tolerate the bossy commands of a wifely wasp who is constantly annoying our peaceful presence; especially a bossy brawd who might try to lasso, coral us and seek to fence us in!

There is only one way to keep men like me and Brian happy, and that was instantly recognised by V’ron and Sheila. Both lovely ladies accepted from that day in church we exchanged rings, looked into their eyes and said ‘I do’ during our wedding ceremony the following essential dos and don’ts of keeping us tied to them. Each woman knew that if they wanted to keep their man close to home always, never to place too many ‘dos’ and don’ts on him, to always be prepared to leave some things unsaid, and never ever seek ‘to fence us in’. This song is dedicated to Brian and V’ron.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 24th July 2019

24/7/2019

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Today’s song is dedicated to my here gay friends, Stephen and Michael from Queensbury and Steven Spencer from Stalybridge. It is ‘My Boy Lollipop’. This song was originally titled ‘My Girl Lollipop’ but was subsequently changed to ‘My Boy Lollipop’. This song was written in the mid-1950s by Robert Spencer of the Doo-wop group, 

The Cadillacs and is usually credited to Spencer, Morris Levy and Johnny Roberts. It was first recorded in New York in 1956 by Barbie Gaye. A later version, recorded in 1964 by Jamaican teenager Millie Small, with a very similar rhythm, became one of the top-selling ska songs of all time.

The song caught the attention of one of Levy's partners, alleged mobster and music mogul Gaetano Vadtola (Corky). Vastola had recently discovered 14-year-old singer Barbie Gaye after hearing her sing on a street corner in Coney Island, Brooklyn. Vastola was so impressed that he immediately took her to meet New York radio DJ Alan Freed. Gaye sang a few songs for them and Freed was equally impressed. Vastola became Barbie Gaye's manager and within days, he acquired the sheet music and lyrics for ‘My Girl Lollypop’ from Levy. He gave them to Gaye, with no specific instructions except to change the gender of the subject of the song and be ready to perform it by the following week. Barbie Gaye changed the song's title to ‘My Boy Lollypop and rewrote parts of the original song. 

When it came time to record, Gaye cut school and took the subway to a recording studio in Midtown Manhattan. The song was recorded in a relatively new style of R&B called ‘Shuffle’. The four musicians, including the white teenage girl, went into the studio and recorded the song in one take. Over the next few years, the sound grew in popularity and evolved into ‘ska’, Jamaica’s first indigenous popular music style. Ska has developed subgenres such as 2-Tone and Third Wave. The Third Wave has influenced several new Jamaican music genres; most notably ‘Rocksteady’ and ‘reggae.

Gaye's recording was released as a single by Darl Records in late 1956. It was heavily played by Alan Freed. Listener requests increased the song’s popularity. Gaye received no royalties from radio play because her manager routinely counterfeited his artist's music to keep all the profits, the record's sales data is difficult to determine.]

In a 2010 interview, Island Records founder, Chris Blackwell, tell how he came to use ‘My Boy Lollipop’ for Millie’s second British single.

Blackwell had purchased the original record in 1959 and found the copy in his archives in 1963. He went on to produce Millie Small’s remake, changing the spelling of the title of the song to read "Lollipop" instead of "Lollypop.” It was recorded in a rhythmically similar shuffle/ska style and in 1964 it became her breakthrough blockbuster hit in the United Kingdom, reaching Number 2. The song also went to Number 1 in the Republic of Ireland and Number 2 in the United States  It is considered to be the first commercially successful international ska song, Small's version of ‘My Boy Lollipop’ sold over six million records worldwide and helped to launch ‘Island Records’ into mainstream popular music. It remains one of the best-selling reggae/ska hits of all time. 

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I emigrated to Canada in late 1964 and whilst there, I naturally kept an eye on songs which were popular in both America and Great Britain. Although the Beatles were the world’s newest band sweeping Great Britain and America, the sound of Millie singing this song was so refreshing, so unusually ska (which I was later to learn after I became a fan of reggae). It was a sound that I was never to forget.

I dedicate today’s song to my gay friends Stephen and Michael from Queensbury and Steven from Manchester way.

Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 23rd July 2019

23/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘You’re the One That I Want’. This song was performed by John Travolta and Olivia Newton-John for the 1978 film version of the musical, ‘Grease’. It was written and produced by John Farrar. ‘You're the One That I Want’ is one of the best-selling singles in history, having sold over 6 million copies in the United States, the United Kingdom, and France alone, with estimates of more than 15 million copies sold worldwide.

Synopsis:
Danny Zuko (Travolta), leader of the T-Birds, has recently started cross-country running to win back his estranged girlfriend Sandy (Newton-John). Unbeknownst to him, Sandy, who has been conflicted about her upright and proper etiquette in a school full of brash greasers, has herself transformed into a greaser queen to win Danny back. In the song, Danny expresses pleasant shock and arousal at Sandy's transformation, with Sandy responding that Danny must "shape up" to prove himself capable of treating Sandy the right way.

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When this song came out, I’d been married ten years and was discharging the combined roles of mother and father to our two sons. My then marriage was on the verge of a breakdown and however hard I struggled to make things work in our union, the passing of each year witnessed a deterioration which could only end in separation and breakup.

I then worked as a Probation Officer in Huddersfield. Like a line from this song, a part of me wanted to tell my wife ‘you’d better shape up’, but instead I just carried on in my attempt to save a sinking ship and stop all aboard drowning. I was unsuccessful in my attempt to salvage the marriage, despite trying to win back my wife’s affections for me and our children. She had suffered from post-natal depression immediately after their births; a condition that persisted four years into their life, and it was still being left to myself and my mother-in-law to provide every aspect and functioning of my son’s daily care.

So, while this song was upbeat, telling the listener how the character Danny won back his estranged girlfriend, Sandy, my own attempts at winning back the semblance of a marital dream I’d once held on my wedding day was going up in flames literally. I realised that my marriage was over the day my mother-in-law died and the house almost burnt down.

As I was upstairs in my bedroom phoning relatives to inform them of her death, I had left the oven grill on in the kitchen and the melamine kitchen fittings caught fire and started emitting poisonous fumes. Within five minutes the kitchen was ablaze and threatened to burn down the house. Meanwhile, noticing the fire, my wife collected our two young children and took them to a friend’s house nearby for safety. I later discovered that it was her friend who phoned the fire brigade to tell them that our kitchen was ablaze.

Meanwhile, I was upstairs oblivious to the fire below and the imminent risk to my safety as I continued to phone relatives and friends about our family bereavement. I eventually looked through the upstairs window and saw and heard three fire engines outside our house and smoke billowing from downstairs. I was eventually conveyed downstairs through the toxic fumes and flames by two burly firefighters. Later, when I learned that my wife had not told anyone that I was upstairs in the house at the time of the fire and that she had fled the scene without warning me, that was the moment I knew our marriage had irretrievably broken down and was beyond salvage.

If you are fortunate today to be living with ‘the one that you love’ like I am with Sheila, never take your good fortune or them for granted, as there is no better feeling than waking up and retiring to bed daily in love with your partner, family and life around you.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 22nd July 2019

22/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Get Up, Stand Up’. Today’s song was written by Bob Marley and Peter Tosh. It originally appeared on ‘The Wailers’ 1973 album ‘Burning’. In 1973, ‘Get Up, Stand Up’ peaked at Number 33 on the ‘Dutch Top 40’. In 1986, it peaked at number 49 in New Zealand. I dedicate today’s song to my Facebook friend, Lorna Gregory whose Jamaican background will naturally appreciate it, and as a ‘thank you’ for having helped my son in the past.

Marley wrote the song while touring Haiti after being deeply moved by its poverty and the lives of Haitians, according to his then-girlfriend, Esther Anderson. The song was frequently performed at Marley's concerts, often as the last song. ‘Get Up, Stand Up’ was also the last song Marley ever performed on stage, on 23 September 1980 at the ‘Stanley Theatre’, now the ‘Benedum Center’ in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.

The song was re-recorded and re-released by the three major Wailers on their own solo releases, each with varying arrangements and approaches to the third verse, which claims that "Almighty God is a living man". Bob Marley and the Wailers released a Bob Marley only version on ‘Live!’ in 1975. This version was notable for the ‘WO-YO!’ refrain after the third verse. Tosh would include his own solo version on his second album, ‘Equal Rights’ in 1977. Bunny Wailer was the last to release his own version on ‘Protest’. This version featured Tosh due to his involvement in recording the album before his death.

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At the start of the New Millennium, and specifically between the years 1999 and 2003, I did a great deal of additional work with 32 schools in Trelawney, Jamaica (the old slave capital of the previous centuries) and 32 schools in West Yorkshire, working to establish a ‘Trans-Atlantic Pen-Pal Project’ which received the direct support and liaison with the Jamaican Minister for Education and Youth Culture and the Custos (Mayor) of Trelawney.

I had two main purposes for my Jamaican projects, which were:
(1) I wanted to help increase the understanding of different cultures and reduce discrimination in schools and society in general between black and white students and citizens. I did this by establishing a ‘Trans-Atlantic Pen-Pal Project’ between 64 schools on opposite sides of the world whereby their monthly letters to each other would be the start of a meaningful communication process. 
(2) I also wrote four books, which 100 Yorkshire Schools and the Mirfield Community paid to have thousands of copies shipped across to Jamaica. The books were introduced into the official curriculum of all Trelawney school children. Some books were for their school libraries, whilst the vast majority were sold to the Jamaican communities and raised tens of thousands of £s to replenish and re-stock much-needed school resources such as paper, pencils, books and chairs/benches.

It is hard for British people who have never been to Jamaica or a similar Caribbean cashed-strapped country to appreciate the restrictions their pupils and teachers work under. First, all Jamaican parents have school fees to pay from their small resources. All the schools in Trelawney cut their pencils in half so that they go twice as far, and pupils were given sheets of writing paper which they lined and wrote upon both sides. Then, they wrote between the lines on each side of the page. School textbooks were often outdated and had to be shared between four pupils. The floors of the classrooms were often the bare earth one walked on.

Sadly, my trans-Atlantic work had to be shortened after 2002 when I incurred two heart attacks; one of which left me unconscious and close to death for four days. During two extended visits to Jamaica between 1999 and 2002, the only songs I heard most of the day travelling between schools were Bob Marley songs. One of the most popular songs sung everywhere across Jamaica was ‘Get Up, Stand Up’. This was a protest song for the downtrodden that gave voice to Jamaican frustrations with an often corrupt and repressive system the common man, woman and child lived under.

It is hard for non-Jamaicans who are unfamiliar with the daily conditions that Jamaica and other third-world countries face. It is usual for the Jamaican citizens to have frequent cuts to power supplies across the island. When this occurs (usually on a daily basis) and the island falls into darkness, there is no moaning; they simply light candles and carry on as they did before the electricity supply went down. Many poor people live in make-do tin shacks that protect them during most of the year but during the hurricane season annually are blown down, crushed and destroyed by severe climate forces. When the poor person’s family shack is destroyed, what do they do? Unlike the people of any other western country, they do not moan or fall into depression, they rebuild their humble home and thank God that whilst the latest hurricane may have destroyed homes, roads and vital bridge crossings, it didn’t take their life or destroy them!

Most employment in Jamaica is in or is closely connected to the tourist industry, and those others in work, are employed in governmental positions like police, teachers, nurses, etc. In this high-crime country, teachers are the most respected workers in society and the police are the least trusted and respected of groups.

I love Jamaica and the capacity of all Jamaicans to get on with their lives, whatever hits them unexpectedly. I especially love the one thing that unites all Jamaicans; the love of reggae music and song. Singing has the power to reach those parts that no other commodity has. I dedicate today’s song to my Jamaican friend, Lorna Gregory who lives in London and works in the Care Services.
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Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 21st July 2019

21/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Beautiful Boy’. This song was written and performed by John Lennon. It was released on the 1980 album ‘Double Fantasy’, the last album by Lennon and Ono released before his death. 

The song was written for Lennon's son, Sean, his only child with Yoko Ono. It begins with John comforting his son from what is presumably a nightmare and develops into John passionately describing the love he has for his son and the joy Sean gave him. At the end of the song, John Lennon whispers, "Goodnight, Sean. See you in the morning. Bright and early."

Celine Dion also covered this song for her album, ‘Miracle’ in 2004. The song reached number two on the ‘Quebec Airplay Chart’.

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This song is more meaningful to me than I could ever describe as it reminds me of painful years of constant sorrow and heartbreak when every day ended in me shedding nightly tears during the most difficult time of my life. At the time I was a married man who was separated from his wife. I was also the father of two children called James and Adam, aged 5 and 3 years respectively. My then-wife no longer wished to remain married, and because of her illness, (post-natal depression), I had been obliged to act as both father and mother to my children since the day after each was born, in every functioning and caring aspect of their lives. My wife and I agreed that I could exercise custody of them when we separated, and I provisional set in motion plans for me to give up my Probation Officer job so that I could stay at home full time until the youngest, Adam was old enough to go to school like his brother.

In exchange, my wife wanted one thing; the sole ownership of our virtually mortgage-free, three-bedroomed modern-detached property in a leafy part of Mirfield that individual compensation monies had enabled us to purchase outright at our marriage. I had £2000 remaining from compensation I had from a childhood accident, and in addition, my wife inherited £2000 from the asbestosis industrial death of her father when she was in her teens. Our combined compensation enabled us to purchase our £4400 matrimonial house outright.

Two weeks after signing over sole ownership of the matrimonial property (present-day value of £200,000 +) my wife reneged on our agreement and refused to allow me custody of our two children. Then, out of the blue, she then prevented me access to them or communication with them in any shape or form for two full years, despite Court Orders to the contrary granting me access. These court orders were resisted /ignored by her and subsequently had default prison sentences attached to them if not carried out by her. My wife knew that the only way that she would be committed to prison in default of not allowing me to see my children would be if I initiated the process with the court and invoked the attaching prison sentence. But she knew me well enough as being a man, husband and father who never would or never could initiated the incarceration of his wife (thereby leading to her loss of job, livelihood or contact with her children).

For two years, I cried into my pillow every night, and anytime during the day, I heard John Lennon’s song ‘Beautiful Boy’ it would also set me off crying. There were naturally other times when some association would remind me of my sons. Birthday cards, Christmas cards and letters I sent to the children were returned unopened or any presents I left outside their door was put in the waste bin. This was most certainly the hardest time in my life to cope with feelings of loss and deal with barbed wire emotions that cut into my very being. 

This song reminds me of a particular irony. I recalled upon seeing my firstborn James within a short time of his birth, I was to describe him as “my beautiful boy”. It is most fitting that I dedicate today’s song to my firstborn, my son James who lives in France with his wife, Elisa and their two children Sam and Jessica. May their family life together continue to be harmonious and satisfying in their love and respect for each other. The most pertinent line in the song for me is ‘Life is what happens to you while you're busy making other plans.’ I love you, James, ‘my beautiful boy’. Dad x

Love and peace Bill xxx 

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Song For Today: 20th July 2019

20/7/2019

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There can only be one song to sing on the 50th anniversary of man landing on the moon and that is, ‘Fly Me to The Moon’. 0riginally titled ‘In Other Words’, this is a song written in 1954 by Bart Howard. Kaye Ballard made the first recording of the song the year it was written. Frank Sinatra’s 1964 version became closely associated with the ‘Apollo missions to the moon’. In 1999, the ‘Songwriters Hall of Fame’ honoured ‘Fly Me to the Moon’ by inducting it as a ‘Towering Song’. Others would cover the song over the years ahead like Peggy Lee: Doris Day: Johnny Mathis and Connie Francis to name but a few.

On July 20th, 1969, fifty years ago, after launching from ‘Kenny Space Center’ four days earlier, the spacecraft ‘Apollo 11’ landed on the surface of the Moon and astronauts Neil A. Armstrong, Michael Collins and Edwin E. Aldrin Jr. walked into the world’s history books.

Altogether there have been many crewed and un-crewed (robotic) space launches. The first human-made object to reach the surface of the Moon was the Soviet Union’s Luna 2 mission, on 13th September 1959. There have been six U.S. crewed landings (between 1969and 1972) and numerous un-crewed landings, with no soft landings happening between 1976 and 2013. To date, the United States is the only country to have successfully conducted crewed missions to the Moon, with the last departing the lunar surface in December 1972. All crewed and un-crewed soft landings took place on the near side of the moon, until 3 January 2019, when the Chinese Change 4 spacecraft made the first landing on the far side of the moon.

Given the grave risks of these expeditions, ironically, the greatest loss of life of astronauts occurred on land before ‘take-off’, and not in space. On Jan. 27, 1967, the astronauts Virgil (Gus) Grissom, Edward H. White and Roger B. Chaffee died in a flash fire during a test aboard their ‘Apollo I’ spacecraft at Cape Kennedy, Fla.

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This momentous moon landing was no doubt seen on the television by most of the western hemisphere. At the time that ‘Apollo 11’ was planning to fly to the moon, I was a newly-wed who was planning a happy future with my new bride. I’d only been married one year and was making surprise plans for our first wedding anniversary, which was a trip to Stratford on Avon to spend the weekend there and see another of Shakespeare’s marvellous plays being performed by one of the much-spoken-about newcomers to the theatre; a young woman called Judy Dench.

Indeed; although we’d agreed to have four or five children prior to our marriage (myself being Roman Catholic), eight years would pass before children eventually arrived on the scene. Meanwhile, our combined salaries provided us with adequate means of providing a taste of the high life before my wife seemed ready to settle down into parenthood. Before becoming a mother, she wanted to experience the high life.

We’d been privileged to have seen dozens of the bard’s works, along with other famous productions at the ‘Royal Shakespeare Theatre’ during our four-year engagement period prior to marriage. After seeing a play there, the night would conclude with a slap-up meal on the balcony overlooking the River Avon, before we returned to a high-class hotel that was situated on the riverside. One night's entertainment would cost more than the weekly wage of an average working man.

When I look back to these times now and consider the amount of money we two young professional workers regularly spent (my wife worked as a teacher and myself, a Probation Officer and our matrimonial house had been bought outright), I’d have to conclude that while watching the theatre performances by the finest actors in the country at the time were beautiful to behold, I began to find the practice of enjoying such a largesse lifestyle while many in the country struggled to make ends meet, as being one obscenity too far to stomach.

Much more spectacular to see at the time was a man walking on the Moon and seeing a panoramic picture of the Earth from the Moon above. It was akin of looking at oneself inside a galactic mirror that was framed by brilliant stars, across an immeasurable span of time. Around the time that I watched Neil Armstrong walk on the surface of the moon and declare, “That's one small step for (a) man, one giant leap for mankind” I had already determined to walk a different path in my life; a path in which materialism played much less of a part and my ‘quality of life’ switched totally from ‘what I was able to get out of life’ to ‘what I was able to contribute to the life of others’.

Prior to my marriage, I had started the journey along the path that I’d been born to walk; a path which I had allowed myself to be deviated from during the heady spin of early-married life. Having no children during our first eight years of married life (my ex-wife’s unilateral choice despite our earlier understanding to the contrary during our four years of courtship and engagement) probably allowed me to live a lavish lifestyle I neither needed nor wanted. When my first two children were born, I was reborn into the man I was always meant to be; a loving father and a fulfilled individual.

Some people like Commander Armstrong needed a lunar spacecraft to take them to their most desired destination, whereas I needed children to take me to the places I wanted to go in my heart, mind and soul. One way or another, there are times in each of our lives when we all need a rocket up the backside to shift us back onto the righteous path we have strayed from.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 19th July 2019

19/7/2019

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Today is the 18th birthday of my great-nephew, Louis Greenwood who lives in Jersey with his parents. My sister Eileen is his maternal grandmother. I dedicate today’s song to Louis. Although you are an official adult today, Louis, to your mother and father, you will always remain ‘a sweet child of mine’.

Today’s song is ‘Sweet Child o’ Mine’ which the rock band, ‘Guns and Roses’ released in August 1988. The song topped the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ chart, becoming the band's only Number 1 US single. Billboard ranked it the Number 5 song of 1988. Re-released in 1989, it reached Number 6 on the ‘UK Singles Chart’. Guitarist Slash said in 1990, "The song turned into a huge hit and now it makes me sick. I mean, I like it, but I hate what it represents."

On an interview on Eddie Trunk’s New York radio show in May 2006, Rose stated that his original concept for the video focused on the theme of drug trafficking. According to Rose, the video was to depict an Asian woman carrying a baby into a foreign land, only to discover at the end that the child was dead and filled with the heroine. This concept was rejected by ‘Geffen Records’ who released the label.

'Sweet Child o' Mine' was placed at Number 37 on Guitar’s World’s list of the ‘100 Greatest Guitar Solos.’ It also came in at Number 3 on ‘Blender’s 500 Greatest Songs Since You Were Born’, and at number 198 on ‘Rolling Stone’s The 500 Greatest Songs of All Time’ besides winning much more acclaim from various musical bodies. As of June 2019, the song was ranked as the 76th greatest song of all time, as well as the best song of 1987, by ‘Acclaimed Music’. 

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When my great-nephew Louis was a young child, I spent a week in Jersey with my sister Eileen and we were accommodated at the home of his Louis’ parents, Andrea and Martin. We all had a lovely time and during that holiday, I was to frequently tease my nephew by calling him ‘a jolly old stinker!’ This was a term which a character called 'Action Annie' in one of my children’s books that I’d written would call anyone she didn’t agree with. Louis would chuckle every time he heard this phase which I continued to use on subsequent birthday cards sent annually to him over the following decade.

Given the name I gave you as a young boy, Louis, and given the good reports that your maternal grandmother (my sister Eileen) has given to me of you during the years since we last met, I would conclude today that the young man who now stands before the world in all his glory is ‘a sweet child of nature’ and is no longer ‘a jolly old stinker!’. Have a wonderful birthday, Louis. 

Great Uncle Billy and Sheila x

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 18th July 2019

18/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Always On My Mind’. This is a love song by Johnny Christopher, Mark James, and Wayne Carson. It was first recorded by B.J.Thomas in 1970 and first released by Gwen McCrae as ‘You Were Always On My Mind’ in 1972. Brenda Lee also released a version in 1972. The song has been a crossover hit, charting in both the country and western and other pop categories. Dozens of performers have released versions of this song, the most notable and successful being Elvis Presley in 1972, Willie Nelson Grammy Award-winning version in 1982 and the Pet Shop Boys in 1987.

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Sometimes having a person on one’s mind constantly can drain one’s emotionally energies much more than trying to fathom the meaning of life with the sole aid of a blank sheet of paper, pencil and slide rule. As a young man, I was forever falling in love with every good woman I ever met, and it wasn’t until I’d become an old man that it dawned on me that it was the ‘goodness’ in these gorgeous ladies I fell in love with and not necessarily their ‘badness’ of thought, feeling and what physical benefits that occasioned to come my way as a consequence of our interaction.

The simple truth is that we all succeed better in life when all we really want from life is what we need. We each succeed in love much better once we reduce its complexity of competing emotions and thoughts swirling around inside us, searching for both the instant gratification of our physical needs and the more long-term goal of finding a soul mate who enables one to find lasting happiness, positive purpose and reconciled peace together.

I have invariably found that it's contact with ‘good people’ and ‘honestly expressed feelings’ to make one happy, and being in their frequent company keeps one happy; not money, power, status or the acquisition of an image that one’s peers and neighbours admire and envy. There are too many people in this world who preoccupy their minds with material assets, senselessly buying things they neither want nor need to impress people they don’t even like! They wouldn’t worry for one moment what others thought of them if they knew that they seldom do. 
When I think upon my life and values today, the person whom I have most on my mind is Sheila, the one I love most. I think about her when we are together, every time we are apart; at the start and at the end of every day. Sheila, I love you, lass, and as today’s song says, ‘You are always on my mind’.

But, who should one have on their mind at any given time, we may ask ourselves? Once, I would have replied unhesitatingly ‘someone who I loved and was closest to at that time.’ An old friend and ex-miner called Matt, who trained as a Probation Officer with me up in Newcastle on Tyne during 1970 supplied me with the answer to this question during the six months we shared a house.

At the time, like all the others on the Training course for mature students, I was eager to learn and provide my assessors and examiners with the best work I could. Consequently, we would cram in as much learning as we could and would get irritable, annoyed and even angry when others distracted us away from our time of study. Should any person on the course approach us at such times of study, requiring a listening ear and a bit of emotional support with a problem that was disturbing them, most of us would put them off until a more convenient time.

Matt, however, was not that type of person and soon became the one individual on the course who would instantly drop anything he was doing whenever anyone approached him wanting a listening ear, honest advice or emotional support and encouragement. It mattered not what he was doing, where, when or who with! Course members knew that Matt would always give them the quality of attention they needed whenever they sought his help and guidance.

This ex-miner was at least 15 years older than all the rest of us in our thirties. He was a plain-speaking man who’d never taken or passed an academic examination in his life and was surprised at the age of 45 years, but as proud as punch, to have been accepted as a mature student on a university course. 
There was so much academically that Matt never knew and would never easily take into his mind, but what he did know (what none of the rest of us knew), and what his body accurately sensed was when another person truly needed his time, presence and full attention.

The single and most satisfying thing every person coming into contact with Matt always received from him was himself! From the moment they approached Matt and he'd ascertained the nature of their need, until the matter had been properly responded to within the interaction, the person seeking Matt out would feel that they were the most important individual on Matt’s mind and in his life!

Sadly, this tale does not have a happy ending. Two months before the one-year Probation Officer course ended and two weeks before the final examination that would pronounce each student either ‘passed’ or ‘failed’, Matt was driving home one weekend and while on the motorway, he had a heart attack at the wheel, crashed and died. Fortunately, no others were killed as collateral damage.

His funeral was one of the saddest, best-attended occasions I’d ever experienced, and I cried for his loss throughout, along with the rest of the congregation who knew this lovely man. The most remembered thing everyone who spoke about Matt that day remembered about him was, “Matt always had time for you!” which is the Geordie way of saying ‘You were always important in his eyes’’.

Matt started life in the poorest of circumstances. He lived the simplest of lives, was schooled with the woman he married from the same mining community (the sister of a work colleague on the pit face) and is today buried in a Peterlee graveyard alongside other mining colleagues he once worked alongside. All these mining workmates were proud of 'Our Matt' (his common name) when he got accepted on a university course.

Matt would often show me his hands after he’d washed them and swear that he’d never rid his body of coal dust in his deepest of crevices or from beneath his nails. He believed that after ten years at the coal face, the coal dust flowed forever through one's veins. And yet, despite his lack of formal schooling and prior academic study, what he did know was how to make anyone approaching him feel welcome and important. This is this reason above all others that leads me to conclude that he will remain one of the greatest of men I ever had the pleasure of meeting and knowing for one brief passage of time. God rest his soul.
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Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 17th July 2019

17/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘You Light Up My Life’. This is a ballad that was written by Joseph ‘Joe’ Brooks and originally recorded by Kasey Cisyk for the film soundtrack album to the 1977 film of the same name. The best-known version of the song is a cover by Debby Boone, the daughter of singer Pat Boone. It held the Number 1 position on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ chart for ten consecutive weeks in 1977, setting a new record for that time. She also topped ‘Record World’ magazine's ‘Top 100 Singles Chart’ for a record of 13 weeks. 

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The obvious reference to this song for me is my wonderful wife, Sheila, who truly ‘lights up my life, lights up my nights, lights up my days, and gives me hope to carry on’. There are no words which are adequate to describe the depth of my love, respect and admiration I feel for her. Sheila, like myself, has always been a ‘getter-upper’, a ‘get-on-with-it’ person, ‘a goer’ and ‘a can-doer’. Individually, we have each always been the strongest of characters, the most mature of siblings, the gatekeepers of family harmony; the one family member that has always been there for our brothers, sisters, extended family and parents in their worst times of need.

Individually, we have always represented these qualities of character, but together it is simply undeniable that we are indefatigable in our beliefs regarding helping all humans and animals and indomitable in spirit when the going gets tough and we each need to help the other. I know that were I a reader of my daily posts instead of their author, a part of me would be thinking, “Impossible! No relationship is that good. He’s egging it for his readers! That man protests his love for Sheila ‘too much’ for it to be true”.

But, believe me, all holders of this view could not be more wrong. Sheila and I have lived and will die, but as far as the hand of destiny is capable of touching and the face of fate can see into the future, we are so intricately connected in thought, feeling, action, purpose and belief that even the stars in the heavens will feel outshone by our love of each other and the planets of the galaxy will turn in envious rotation.

Over the past eight years, my illnesses and cancerous conditions have required hundreds of blood transfusions, numerous operations, two near-death experiences, two six-month periods of chemotherapy, and more recently, twenty sessions of radiotherapy. In addition, during five of these past eight years, I have spent between six and nine months annually either confined to a hospital, my bed or my house.

And yet, I tell you most truly, since I met and married Sheila, the past decade has been the happiest ten years of my life. Such happiness we have both experienced is indestructible because we are in love with each other.

Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 16th July 2019

16/7/2019

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July 16th
Today’s song is ‘If I Give My Heart to You’. This popular song was written by Jimmy Brewster (Milt Gabler), Jamie Crane and Al Jacobs. The most popular versions of the song were recorded by Doris Day and Denise Lor; both of whom charted in 1954. The song peaked at Number 4 for Doris Day on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ chart in September 1954, whereas Denise Lor’s recording peaked at Number 13. 

Other versions of the song followed by Al Martino: Anne Shelton: Bing Crosby: Duke Ellington: Ella Fitzgerald: Nat King Cole: Cliff Richards and the Wright Brothers among many others.
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When this song was released, I was laid up in the hospital with multiple injuries after having been run over by a heavy vehicle. I had been in hospital many months and had been told that my spinal injury meant I would never walk again. During my first month in Batley Hospital (long since closed), I was on the critical list and drifted between the state of life and death. At one time during a semi-conscious moment, I could see the vague outline of a doctor in his white coat telling my mother that I wouldn’t make it through the night. I can still hear the consultant’s words as they tore into the sobbing heart of my dear mother with the savage cut of barbed-wire loss to come, as she received the news that her firstborn would soon die.

At that precise moment, I made a promise to my Maker that if He spared my life, I would use the remainder of it to do good works.  If there was one precise moment that I consciously gave my heart to God, it was then! God obviously heard my promise and He has so far more than kept His part of our bargain. I have tried to keep my part of my promise ever since. Sometimes I have failed in my weakness to resist the many temptations of the flesh, but I can truthfully say, that I cannot recall ever wishing anyone harm or intentionally doing someone harm or injustice.

I have always been emotionally expressive in my feelings for self and others and I would also say that I have known love many times because of my willingness to make my heart forever open and emotionally available to its prospect. I have had my heart broken on a few occasions; once through a prior marriage that my wife insisted on ending and a few times when circumstances simply prevented the continuation of a satisfactory loving relationship which had to be broken off. 

Other breaks and fractures to my heart were literally physical. I incurred two severe heart attacks 18 years ago whilst being heavily involved in a twelve-year period of intense charitable work, writing over 50 books, raising over £200,000 for charitable causes and visiting literally 2000 schools in Yorkshire. I also did trans-Atlantic work with 32 schools in Jamaica in conjunction with the Jamaican Minister of Education and Youth Culture. All this was performed in addition to my full-time job as a Probation Officer, which kept me occupied between 40-60 hours weekly, besides being a husband and father to five children.

I know that my greatest failing has always been the risk of not being there for my first children after an acrimonious divorce, initiated by my ex-wife. For the first five years of their life, I had to be both mother and father to them after my then wife’s refusal to wash, feed, dress, exercise, clean, cuddle and care for them. At the time, medics had no name for her condition other than ‘baby blues’, but more recent research findings identify the condition as ‘Post Natal Stress’.

Then, after such close bonding between father and children, everything suddenly changed, and instead of having custody of both children as we had agreed, I was prevented from communicating with them and seeing them for over two years by their mother ‘in blatant defiance of court orders to the contrary’. At a time when I wanted to continue giving my first two sons my heart, I would cry myself to sleep for almost two years nightly.
I now know that it was my nil-access to and nil-contact with my children that led me to seek out the love and contact of hundreds of thousands of children during the immediate years following by becoming a children's author and reading my stories in over 2000 Yorkshire schools I visited between 1989 and 2002

In 2010, I was walking up Main Street in Haworth to meet a strange woman who had been widowed several years earlier. We had a coffee and chatted for hours before going our own separate ways back to our respective properties. Within 24 hours my mind and body were responding as though they had met love face on, and by the time our second meet up in Haworth had concluded one week later, we both knew that we were in love with each other.

Since I was blessed in meeting, loving and marrying my lovely wife Sheila, her love quickly mended this old broken heart of mine, adding to our physical, psychological and emotional relationship, a spiritual dimension of marital union I never previously enjoyed; thus truly making Sheila my love, my life and my soul mate. She has been given my heart.

Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 15th July 2019

15/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘I Just Called to Say I Love You’. This is a ballad that was written, produced and performed by Stevie Wonder. It remains Stevie Wonder's best-selling single to date, having topped a record 19 charts.

The song was the lead single from the 1984 soundtrack album ‘The Woman in Red’, along with two other songs by Stevie Wonder, and scored Number 1 on the ‘Billboard Hotb100’ for three weeks from October 13 to October 27, 1984. It also became his tenth Number 1 on the ‘Rhythm and Blues’ chart, and his fourth Number 1 on the ‘Adult Contemporary Chart. The song also became Wonder's only solo UK Number-1 success, staying at the top for six weeks, in the process also becoming ‘Motown Records’ biggest-selling single in the UK, a distinction it still holds as of 2018. In addition, the song won both a ‘Golden Globe’ and an Academy Award for Best Original Song’. The song also received three nominations at the 27th Grammy Awards for ‘Best Male Pop Vocal Performance’, ‘Song of the Year’, and ‘Best Pop Instrumental Performance’.

There was a dispute among Stevie Wonder, his former writing partner Lee Garrett and Lloyd Chiate as to who actually wrote the song. Chiate claimed in a lawsuit that he and Garrett wrote the song years before its 1984 release; however, a jury ultimately sided with Wonder.
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When I started my daily singing practise around fifteen months ago at the age of 75 years, I hadn’t sung in public since the age of 21 years, with one exception. That exception was at a public house in Scarborough one weekend.

For around two years after my divorce, I regularly stayed at an apartment on the Scarborough front with my three sisters and the occasional brother. We would spend the weekend talking about growing up years in the Forde family, and which of us had experienced the hardest or easiest upbringing. When those subjects weren’t being discussed we would naturally gossip about any absent family member, besides following a rock and rock singer who regularly sang in the seaside pubs and clubs. Naturally, we would be merry in both cordialities and in spirit and booze.

One of the pubs on the seafront has Karaoke twenty-four-seven and because my siblings were always talking about ‘Our Billy having been ‘a great singer as a teenager’ I was frequently urged to get up and give them a song. Not having sung for decades, public singing had become so fearful a prospect to me, and I would adamantly refuse. One evening, when in between the stages of mildly fresh to approaching the verge of drunkenness, I threw caution to the wind and had a go on the Karaoke machine.

The song I wanted and tried to sing was the Stevie Wonder number, ‘I Just Called to Say I Love You’. Not having once sung in public since I’d abandoned a singing career when out in Canada in 1964, after I’d discovered that I wasn’t the best singer on the Canadian scene at the time, my karaoke performance in the Scarborough pub went down as flat as a fart after I forgot both words and tune halfway through. And while all the other pub listeners and my family didn’t give a tinker’s cuss about my performance, I did!

I was highly embarrassed. I’d never felt so humiliated, especially as I’d allowed false pride and foolishness to give way to my better senses as my family in the pub chanted, ’Give us a song, Billy! Give us a song, brother!” To tell the truth, I felt a bit of a wimp having allowed myself to have been corralled back into the entertainment spotlight after a 64-year retirement break from public singing. None of the numerous prizes, trophies and cash I’d won during my years of development between the ages of 8 years and 21 years in regional and national singing contests and variety shows I had entered mattered one jot to me anymore. As far as I was concerned, all I would remember for the rest of my non-singing life (along with the rest of my beloved family and friends who were present at the spectacle) was the apologetic performance and pig’s arse I’d made of that Scarborough Karaoke night out; and all because I couldn’t keep my big mouth shut and sup my ale.

Over the past fifteen months, I am glad to say that the daily singing practice that I have made public from day one, (over 400 songs so far sung and video-recorded on my own ‘YouTube’ Channel) has led to me achieving five main things:
(1) I have improved my lung capacity and oxygenation levels in my blood by 20 per cent and have daily registered normal healthy readings for the past nine months in blood pressure levels, body temperature and oxygen/blood mix.
(2) I no longer have any public fear of singing.
(3) My willingness to try and sing a wide variety of songs in every singing style going has enabled me to greatly improve my vocal range to very presentable levels for a 76-year-old man.
(4) Daily singing practice, apart from making me healthier (and at a time when I have had three separate cancers to deal with in different parts of my body), has also made me happier. I have always been a positive and cheerful person who has fortunately never known one moment of depression in my life yet singing every day has made me even happier than I was before. It has even encouraged my lovely wife, Sheila (who has played both the organ and piano for many years) to take up the Ukulele and the Saxophone also. Her bedroom is full of musical regalia from wall to wall. For the nosey among you, we have had our own bedrooms ever since my painful legs have refused to stop kicking seven bells out of fresh air during my sleep whenever I get a muscle spasm. During my nightly sleep these days, my legs have taken on a life of their own and spontaneously operate like a farmer’s threshing machine throughout the night as they cut down the corn in their path
(5) Looking for new songs to sing daily, has enabled me to research the history of music and song over the past hundred years, and today it gives me great pleasure to find and sing a song that was first published a century ago whilst the following day to sing a hard rock song released ten years ago. The greatest pleasure though has been using my selection of daily songs to record in tandem as a history of my own life and development; which has been full and eventful.

The songs I sing engender memories of my childhood years, growing into an arrogant and fearless teenager who was brimming with confidence and determined to take on the world and beat it at its own game; before entering my twenties and thirties as I engaged in my research of human response patterns and pioneered a new method of dealing with aggressive offenders called 'Anger Management' that mushroomed and became popular in all English-speaking countries within a matter of years thereafter.

The strongest memory of my childhood years is my dearly departed mother who never went through a minute of any day she ever lived without a song in her heart. She literally sang as she worked.

I dedicate today’s song to my family as a better rendition of the same song I tried to sing, but couldn’t sing fifteen years ago in that Scarborough Karaoke pub. Should you want to view or access any of the 400 songs I have already video recorded on my YouTube Channel please use the link below: http://www.fordefables.co.uk/my-singing-videos.html

Love and peace Bill xxx


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Song For Today: 14th July 2019

14/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Harbour Lights’. This is a popular song by Hugh Williams (pseudonym for Austrian exile composer, Will Grosz) with lyrics by Northern Irish songwriter Jimmy Kennedy. This song was originally sung by American singer Frances Lanford in 1937 and was re-published in 1950.

The song has been recorded by many artists including Bing Crosby: Elvis Presley: The Platters: Englebert Humperdinck: Willie Nelson: Pat Boone: Jerry Lee Lewis and Vera Lynn among many others.

The biggest-selling version was recorded by the ‘Sammy Kaye Orchestra’. The recording was released by ‘Columbia Records’ as a 78-rpm single and a 45-rpm single. The record first reached the ‘Billboard Hot 100’charts on September 1, 1950 and lasted 25 weeks, peaking at Number 1. As far as I understand, no other recording of this song ever hit the Number 1 spot again. 
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The only harbour lights that fill my memory bank are seeing the lights on the Liverpool Docks when my mother would take her children on a holiday back to Portlaw Village where I was born in Waterford. During the earlier years of my development, when only four of my parent’s seven children had yet been born, I would arrive home from school on a Friday evening. It would be 4:00pm and we would be hungry and expecting tea, when, ‘out of the blue’ mum would spontaneously decide. She’d look at me and say, ”Put your coats on children. No time for tea tonight. We'll get something to eat on the ‘Cattle Boat’ in Liverpool. I haven’t seen my parents for nearly two years now and if I miss seeing them again this year, they might be dead next year! You see to the other three, Billy, while I pack the suitcases”.

Being the firstborn of seven children, until the others reached the age of ten years. It was the task of their older sibling who was next in line to attend to the needs of their immediately younger sibling. Folk in small families have never understood how larger households manage to do anything at all; never realising the amount and intricacy of organisation that becomes a second nature to daily functioning and survival!

As we were getting a change of clothes on, my father would arrive home covered in coal dust after finishing his shift at the pit and hand mum his unopened brown wage packet. He’d be expecting his hot bath run and tea on the table ready to eat within the following half hour. As dad was washing in the bath (it always took him half an hour to rid his skin of the coal layers lodged in the crevice’s and folds of his body), mum would write him a quick note and leave it perched on the kitchen table like an unwelcome surprise. The note would be brief, to the point and, to a reader other than her husband, it would never reflect the degree of mutual love and marital understanding between the couple.

“Dear Paddy, there’s a hot stew in the oven and I have also left you a few pounds to last you until you are paid again next Friday. I am taking Billy, Mary, Eileen and Patrick to Portlaw for a holiday. Post us some money over to my parent’s house when you get next get paid and duck the rent man until we get back. I’ll write when we’re coming back home to Windy Bank Estate. If you run short of bread and sugar, Harry Hodgson will tick you until I get back. Maureen x”

My father would return from his hot bath, and only then would he learn that he wouldn’t be seeing my mum and his first four children for an unspecified period of time and that he’d have to ‘be out’ or ‘stay quiet’ when the rent man, milk man or club man knocked on the door for their weekly money.

Without knowing that their oldest daughter and their four grandchildren were going to land on then unannounced and penniless late at night after knocking them up out of bed, and then eat them out of house and home for the next three weeks before we caught the ‘Cattle Boat’ back home to England, my maternal grandparents would happily share what they had with us.

I always loved standing on the deck of the ‘Cattle Boat’ and seeing the lights on the dock as the seafaring vessel pulled out of the harbour to cross the rough waters to Dublin, where we’d then have a short train journey before catching a coach into Waterford City. Once we arrived in County Waterford, mum would phone the Post Office and the Post Office lady would dash across to Willie Low (the only person in Portlaw who had his own car) and which he used as a taxi to earn a living. It mattered not what time of day or night we arrived in Waterford off the coach, the Post Office Mistress would be phoned and alerted of mum’s request. Depending on the time of day or night, the Post Mistress would get Willie Low out of bed or the pub and tell him to get into Waterford pronto and pick up Maureen Forde (Fanning that was) and bring and her and her four children back to her parent’s house in 14, William Street.

After Willie had done his annual duty, mum would often put off paying him there and then while telling Willie “I’ll see to you later, Willie, as my purse is at the bottom of my suitcase!” To tell the truth, poor Willie Low was probably the most likely of mum’s list of creditors who were least likely ever to be paid for his taxi services.
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just as my mum would pay this week’s grocery bill to Harry Hodgson out of my father’s wages next week, I am sure that Willie Low (who’d always fancied my mother prior to her marriage to dad) would sometimes have this year’s taxi fare paid by mum the following year she brought us back to see our grandparents on holiday. During our many holidays in Portlaw (where myself and sisters Mary and Eileen were born), my grandmother would often say to my mum in playful jest, “That knock on my door may well be a holiday for you and the children, but it’s no holiday for me and your poor father, Maureen”.

Whenever I hear the ‘Harbour Lights’ song it always reminds me of the crossing from Liverpool. The crossing was always by the cheapest means (colloquially known as the ‘Cattle Boat’ where foot passengers would occupy the upper deck and cows, pigs, sheep, poultry and stowaways filled the lower deck). The cheapest crossing would always be the midnight crossing. This crossing might have been the sailing most used by the poorest of Irish migrants returning back to the old country for a break, but the ‘Cattle Boat’ was a veritable vessel of mirth, raucousness, goodwill and cheerful conversation where bottles of ale were drunk in their thousands with the abandonment of an English landlord, and the songs of Irish freedom were fervently sung by old-timers who’d been away from their native land far too long.

For the eight-hour journey across friendly waters, while the adults laughed, drank, danced and sung rebel songs, we tired children placed our heads down and slept wherever we could, (on seats, parental laps, crushed suitcases and even floors). The nearest image I could describe would be the happy seafaring migrants on the bottom deck of the 'Titanic'.

Those were the days; happy days. God bless you Mum for your spontaneous nature, that may have driven my poor father mad and made my grandparents much the poorer. But these times gave your children unforgettable happy experiences that cannot be erased from our hearts. I love my parents, my grandparents, my siblings and the country of my birth to which I will always belong in heart and citizenship whatever Brexit brings.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 13th July 2019

13/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Tonight’s the Night ( Gonna Be Alright’). This song was written by Rod Stewart for his 1976 album ‘A Night on The Town’. The song proved to be a massive commercial success and became his second US chart-topper on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’. It made its debut at number 81 on October 2, 1976, and rose quickly, climbing to the top of the chart on November 13, 1976, and remained on top for eight consecutive weeks until January 8, 1977. It was the longest stay of any song during 1976, as well as the longest stay at Number one for Rod Stewart in his entire recording career. The song also peaked at Number 5 in the UK, Number 3 in Australia and charted well in other parts of the world. It was the Number 1 song on ‘Billboard’s 1977 Year End’ chart. It became the best-selling single of 1977 in the United States. As of 2018, it is the nineteenth most popular song in the history of the chart. According to the American Dan Peek, Stewart's inspiration for ‘Tonight's the Night’ was America's Top 30 hit ‘Today’s the Day’.

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When I was first married in 1968, about seven or eight couples were wed around the same time and lived in the same newbuild Mirfield Crescent of modern houses. Naturally, we all became close friends over the years. As with all groups, one can usually find a few eccentric characters within them or characters who have a more unusual pattern of a lifestyle than the norm. One of the group was called Ian and his wife was Christine. Ian was a man of simple and serious nature; someone who never joked. never smoked, never broke the law, hardly drank more than two pints of alcohol, and was a good steady worker who never broke sweat.

Christine was very reserved and hardly spoke in the group unless she was directly asked a specific question. Even when spoken to, she was highly secretive about all personal details and whilst politely listening to the women’s gossip, she never joined in. Overall, she came across as being a woman of plain appearance and bland character; someone who had found a marriage partner in a man who had attended the same school and lived in the same street as her; someone most suitable to her needs and requirements as a husband and lifelong companion.

Both Ian and Christine never courted anyone else and found it to be the most natural thing to marry each other at their respective ages of 22 years after a four-year engagement period. Both being virgins in almost all aspects of life, no physical intimacy was ever engaged in that would necessitate the removal of any garments or fumbled rummaging, and a peck on the cheek would usually represent the highlight of a ‘good night’ farewell during their period of restrained courtship.

They married in church and Christine naturally wore a white wedding gown, headdress and veil. Her wedding dress had been a bride’s dress of a wealthy aunt which had been altered to suit her thin body stature.

Their honeymoon was two weeks in a Filey boarding house. The period was reported by Ian to have been a fortnight of negotiation between each other instead of two weeks of hot romance and sexual exploration at every opportunity. They were of the view that if they established ‘what was’ and ‘what wasn’t’ acceptable to either in their marital relationship at the start, then their routine of life could be more easily established and any offence caused by one towards the other would be minimised.

As far as sexual relationships were concerned, times, duration and frequency varied little from their routine eating arrangements. Ian had his set meal on the dot at 5:30pm every night and the table would be cleared by Christine and the dishes washed and put away by the 6:00 pm television news which she never missed. If Ian arrived home later than usual (say 5:45 pm), he would find that Christine had started her meal. He would start eating this, but finished or not, by 6:00 pm Christine would begin clearing the table!

Each Thursday or Friday evening, the eight husbands would go to the local pub for a few pints while our wives would have a women’s night in at one of the houses and share a few bottles of wine, spread a bit of womanly gossip and prepare supper which we’d all eat together when the men returned from the pub. If our night out was on a Thursday, then Ian would join the men at the pub and Christine would join our wives for a social night in at whoever’s house turn it was. But if it was Friday night when the men went out to the pub together, while Ian joined the chaps, he always made his excuses around 9:00pm and left an hour before the rest of the chaps, while his wife never joined the other wives on a Friday night, presumably being otherwise engaged.

Ian only ever drank two pints and as the others usually had around four drinks each, being very careful with his money, he decided at the start of the group’s relationship to always pay for his own. Consequently, he never accepted being bought a drink in case he felt obliged to have to pay for a full round himself.

During one Friday night, a few of chaps spiked Ian’s drink with a double short when he went to the loo and once the alcohol had taken effect, Ian’s tongue loosened. He forgot about absenting himself as usual around 9:00 pm and even offered to buy a round of drinks. As Ian talked about his life with his wife, we all listened intently, knowing full well that the subject would never be mentioned again after he’d sobered up the next day.

Ian started complaining about life in general and specifically the routines in his life that being married to Christine involved.
Ian had always wanted to become a father, but early on in their union, Christine had refused the prospect of ever becoming a mother. To be precise, that detail of future marital relationships had seemingly been a part of the honeymoon negotiations. Ian had always felt cheated by this unilateral decision of Christine's, especially as it was only spoken of during the couple’s honeymoon period for the first time. Then, Ian revealed why he absented himself every Friday night around 9:00 pm.

During their honeymoon negotiations in Filey, Christine told Ian that she viewed sexual relationships between husband and wife as being much overrated. She saw sex between man and wife as being essentially a Christian duty to prevent the husband straying from his sacred marital vows, and never a pleasure to be taken for granted or abused. Therefore, their practice of having sex ( Ian refused to glorify it with the term ‘making love’) was limited to once weekly; on a Friday night between 9:00 pm and 9:30 pm. If Ian wanted sex with Christine, he could indulge himself then, but on no account would he be given any leeway as to prolonging the occasion or delay vacating her bedroom after he'd had his conjugal rights and return to his own bedroom, where he would spend the rest of the night frustratedly engaged in one activity or another. He also told us that there were no exceptions to their marital contract negotiated on their honeymoon; not even on birthdays, holiday periods or Christmas; unless these festive occasions happened to fall on a Friday!

About three months after learning of Ian and Christine’s marital routine that was adhered to come hell or high water, I told an older workmate called Albert at the mill where I worked in Brighouse. Albert was too worldly wise to be shocked and did not seem surprised in the slightest. He informed me that such practices were commonplace, especially in the homes of Methodists!

Albert admitted to having been a foul-mouthed hard-drinking gambler, atheist, sportsman and womaniser when he met his wife to be. He married her for her stunning looks and the prospect of a good life to come both inside and outside their bedroom. He told me that within one month of their marriage, his wife started her programme of reformation. One year later, Albert had packed up playing cricket for Yorkshire, become a lifelong abstainer from the hard stuff, never gambled again, and had even turned Methodist. He said, “What your friend Ian experiences today, I experienced something similar thirty years ago, Bill. The only difference seems to be that my good lady was called Emily, not Christine, and Monday was the night I looked forward to all week!”

It would seem that Albert's wife avoided any risk of having sex on a Saturday night, which could spill over into the sanctity of Sunday if commenced late. Emily also favoured a Monday (the start of the week) when she would get the washing, house cleaning, ironing and other 'chore' out of the way!
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Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 12th July 2019

12/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Gentle on My Mind’. This song was written by John Hartford and won four Grammy Awards. Hartford won the award for ‘Best Folk Performance’ and ‘Best Country and Western Song (songwriter). The other two awards, ‘Best Country and Western Solo Vocal Performance ‘and ‘Best Country and Western Recording’ went to American country music singer Glen Campbell for his version of Hartford's song.

The song was released in June 1967 as the only single from the album of the same name. It was re-released in July 1968 to more success. Glen Campbell's version has received over 5 million plays on the radio. Campbell used ‘Gentle on My Mind’ as the theme to his television variety show’ The Glen Campbell Goodtime Hour’. Dean Martin’s version, recorded in 1968, was a major hit in the United Kingdom; three versions of the song, Campbell's, Martin's and Patti Page’s, all reached the top ten of the ‘U.S. Easy Listening Chart’ in 1968. The song was ranked Number 16 on BMI's ‘Top 100 Songs of the Century.’

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When this song was first released, I had a thousand and one things on my mind. I was eagerly saving up for the bottom drawer as I’d been engaged a few years to a young woman who was at teacher-training college in Bradford. I was also trying to move into a more professional job that I felt was right for me (from Mill Manager to Probation Officer). I’d been very fortunate to have landed a mill manager’s position on nights at a Cleckheaton textile firm one year earlier but knew this was not the kind of job that I was meant to do forever. So, I gave up a £4,000 per annum job at a time when the average annual wage was less than £2000 and returned to working in a Brighouse Mill as a semi-skilled operative for £25 per week wage.

I took my employment demotion so that I could free my evenings up to attend night school as a mature student and obtain the ‘O’ Levels and ‘A’ Levels which I’d avoided doing during earlier years.

My daily routine would involve working at the Brighouse mill until 6.00 pm, then dash off to night school classes in Cleckheaton, four evenings a week. When I came out of night school around 10:00 pm, I would then rush down to Charlie’s Taxies in Cleckheaton, where I would drive a taxi for the most modest of wages until 1:00 am or 2:00 am. All this was to start off my married life the year after (1968) in a sound financial position. Whoever you were in the 1960s, whatever your earning potential was, we all wanted a decent start to our marriage. We were all determined to have our own home to start up in and would have taken up residence in the allotment before having a son and his new bride start off their married life sharing the same house, eating and cooking in the same kitchen and sleeping in the and spare room of mum and dad’s house!

With my mind preoccupied on a thousand and one things from the dawn of one day to the early hours of the next morning, any leisure time I had was spent doing whatever was ‘easier on my mind’. For me, this involved relaxing in the sun, walking the woods and meadows, reading a good novel and playing music. These are the things that I’ve always found ‘Gentle on my mind’ and still do.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 11th July 2019

11/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘When I Need You’. This popular song was written by Albert Hammond and Carol Bayer Sager. Leo Sayer’s version was a massive hit worldwide, reaching Number 1 on the ‘UK Singles Chart’ for three weeks in February 1977 after three of his earlier singles had stalled at Number 2. It also reached Number 1 on both the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ in May 1977. Billboard ranked it as ‘The 24th Best Song of 1977’.

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For twenty-seven years I worked as a Probation Officer, serving in the areas of Huddersfield, Batley and Dewsbury. During those years, I was to learn one crucially important thing which this song reminds me of whenever I hear it. ‘We all need certain people in our lives from time to time BUT BEING THERE FOR THEM AT THE RIGHT TIME MEANS BEING THERE AT THE TIME WHEN THEY NEED YOU’.

I had not been in my Probation Officer job very long before it dawned on me (as it no doubt dawns on every public service worker in the country today), that my employer had provided me with insufficient resources, along with the expectation that I could do more with such limited resources than I was capable of ever achieving!

Paradoxically, I was able to do more with insufficient resources, providing that I was prepared to change my working practice from what I had been shown was desirable to what I knew was possible and manageable. The expectation on all Probation Officers at the time was to supervise around sixty clients who were either the subject of a Probation Order, a Prison Sentence or a Parole Licence. The Probation Officer would be expected to see each person concerned once weekly for between half and one hour; along with attending courts and visiting prisons and client’s homes from John O’Groats to Land’s End, plus recording the details of all such contacts. It soon became clear that the task was impossible, unless, keeping accurate typed records was always one month behind and half a week’s extra unpaid hours were worked just to hold one’s head above the parapet.

Never having been a person to waste my effort and energy on anything or anyone which appeared unproductive, but always being a person who will look for a better alternative, I came up with a new modus operandi. After spending a few months conducting a survey of all my client list, I quickly discovered that in order to truly help one’s clients of the Probation Service, it mattered less how often and for what duration of interview a Probation Officer saw the reporting client, and more what you did when you did see them; and in particular, where you able to help them? I found that it mattered more (assuming that the Officer had the knowledge and means to help the offender) that the Probation Officer ‘WAS THERE AND ON HAND TO HELP ON THE OCCASIONS THAT HELP WAS REALLY NEEDED AND ASKED FOR’.

For the uninitiated, most Probation Order clients agreed to be made the subject of a Probation Order in the first instance as a means of not been given a prison sentence by the courts. Most prisoners in the country’s prisons like to receive regular visits from their Probation Officers, not because they want to see them, but to have an hour away from the tedium of some tedious activity and to get offered a few cigarettes to smoke during the visit. Most prisoners who are released on Parole Licence accept this practice of being placed on parole licence ‘as being the only way they can be released anyway, if they wish to avoid serving every bit of their sentence without consideration of any reduction’ (up to half the term served remission).

Even when clients were forced to visit the office and talk with their Probation Officer whatever their Officer wanted to talk about, the relationships forged were often artificial, non-productive and meaningless to the client. Most clients inwardly resented their compulsion to report to their officer and almost all clients told their Officer whatever they thought the Officer wanted to hear and be able to officially record. In real emergencies, when the client would gladly have taken the advice and help of their Probation Officer (such as requiring official intervention on their behalf when bailiffs loomed, fines couldn’t be paid, a job was lost, gas and electricity was disconnected because of arrears, housing eviction was faced or their liberty was threatened, they would call to see their Probation Officer in the hope of receiving tangible help, ONLY TO FIND THAT THEIR PROBATION OFFICER WASN’T THERE OR WAS OTHERWISE ENGAGED AND UNABLE TO SEE THEM WITHOUT ANOTHER APPOINTMENT BEING MADE.

The upshot of my survey was that during a two-year period of statutory contact between the offender and the Probation Officer, there would be a few times at the most when the presence, help or advice of the Probation Officer would be sought out by the client. And, were each client upon completion of their contact period asked to fill in a questionnaire about the quality of the relationship established with their Probation Officer and the quality of service provided, their answers would be determined by their most prominent memory of their contact.

At the end of every statutory period having been completed, the client would not remember how many times his Probation Officer saw them and for what duration each visit, but if their Probation Officer had helped them and how? It was therefore essential that whenever a client sought the Probation Officer out that the Officer responded at the earliest opportunity that same day!

Friendships are the same! Being there for another during their time of need means precisely that! Being there means ‘being there’; not just sending your good wishes by e-mail message or down a telephone line but presenting oneself in person willingly.

The same applies in respect of one’s childhood memories of growing up in their parent’s house. When parents are dead and gone, the child will remember the things and contact that really mattered; often seemingly small things like ALWAYS BEING THERE FOR THEM WHEN THEY NEEDED COMFORT, REASSURANCE, UNDERSTANDING, ENCOURAGEMENT, A KISS AND A CUDDLE; WHATEVER WAS REALLY NEEDED! All the expensive presents, fashionable clothes bought and holidays taken will be forgotten far quicker than those other and more intimate occasions when the smallest of personal gestures and kindest of acts meant the most and left the most lasting impression.

And it is precisely the same with relationships between husbands and wives and lifelong partnership relationships when death leaves one person of the couple bereaved and with their most prominent of memories for consolation.
Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 10th July 2019

10/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘I Shot the Sheriff’. This song was written by Bob Marley and released in 1973 by ‘Bob Marley and the Wailers’. Bob Marley and the Wailers version was cited by the singer ’Ice-T’ and his supporters when defending their release of the controversial record, ‘Cop Killer’ in later years. Marley’s song spoke of shooting a sheriff whilst ‘Ice-T’ sung about killing a cop. Supporters of ‘Ice-T’ indicated as evidence of his detractors' hypocrisy, that the older song was never similarly criticized despite having much the same theme.

In 2012, Bob Marley's former girlfriend Esther Anderson claimed that the lyrics, ‘Sheriff John Brown always hated me, For what, I don't know: Every time I plant a seed, He said kill it before it grow’ are actually about Marley being very opposed to her use of birth control pills. She says that Marley supposedly substituted the word ‘doctor’ with ‘sheriff’.

Eric Clapton recorded a cover version that was included on his 1974 album ‘461 Ocean Boulevard’. His take on the song has a soft rock and reggae sound. It is the most successful version of the song, peaking at Number 1 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’. In 2003, Clapton's version was inducted into the ‘Grammy Hall of Fame’.

I remember well the controversy that tried to justify the release of ‘Ice-T’s record of ‘Cop Killer’ in the early 1990s.The ‘Cop Killer’ song was composed for the heavy metal band, ’Body Count’, and was released on Body Count’s self-titled debut album. The song's lyrics about ‘cop killing provoked much controversy and negative reactions from political figures of the time. Others stated ‘Cop Killers’ to be a ‘protest song’ of the volatile times in America between the police and the black citizen. Eventually, Ice-T recalled the album and re-released it without the inclusion of the song, which was given away as a free single. Meanwhile, Marley’s song ‘I Shot the Sheriff’ went to receive much acclaim.

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As a Probation Officer for 27 years, while I came into contact and worked with many murderers, the only person whom I ever came across who had killed a policeman was the wife of a policeman. She told the court that the man she married could not be recognised as the husband she killed. She indicated that the mounting stress of the job (this was in the early 80s) and the ever increasing need to produce better figures of detection each year, led him to falsify evidence to get a person they knew was guilty of the crime but one whom they could not prove guilty without planted evidence or false witness. 

Year after year, the kind and sensitive man who wouldn’t swat a fly away from his face gradually learned how to wind his wife up for no other reason than to have a row and ‘get in her face’. He started drinking heavily after joining the police force and after the second child came along and his wife seemed to get less and less interested in sharing his bed, he began several extra marital relationships.

Eventually, arguments between the couple became more frequent and aggressive and would always culminate in physical blows being struck by both parties, often in front of the children. During one such almighty row that had quickly blown up into a physical fight, she hit her alcohol affected husband on the head with a heavy blunt object that was to hand and he died of head wounds before the ambulance could get him to the hospital. I cannot recall the precise sentence but remember it was a suspended sentence the woman received.

Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 9th July 2019

9/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Without You’. This song was written by Pete Ham and Tom Evans of Welsh rock group ‘Badfinger’, and first released on their 1970 album ‘No Dice’. This power ballad has been recorded by over 180 artists, and versions released as singles by Harry Nilsson (1971) and Mariah Carey (1994) became international best-sellers. Paul McCartney once described the balladnas "the killer song of all time".

In 1972, writers Ham and Evans received the British Academy's ‘Ivor Novello Award’ for ‘Best Song Musically and Lyrically’. Evans' relationship with his future wife Marianne influenced his lyrics after she left him, and he found it hard to live without her. Sadly, the two writers of the song, Ham and Evans, later committed suicide due to legal and financial issues. In Evans' case, it was a dispute over song-writing royalties for ‘Without You’ that precipitated his action. Song-riting royalties had become the subject of constant legal wrangling for Evans, and in 1983, following an acrimonious argument with his bandmate Joey Molland over the royalties for the song, Evans hanged himself.

The song was released as a single in October 1971, and it stayed at Number 1 on the U.S. pop chart for four weeks in 1972. Billboard ranked it as the Number 4 song for 1972.

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There are so many people in this world where relationships ended through break up, circumstances beyond one’s control or death has left a hole in them that can never again be filled, has left an emotional void that can never again be bridged. The person has given their heart, mind, body and soul in the love of another, and now find themselves alone in their grief that cannot seem to be tempered by any other association, thought or activity.

I have known spurned and broken-hearted lovers turn to drink, debauchery, debasement of others and damage of self through alcohol, drug abuse and other means of self-administered destruction. I have known bereaved people who have lost a loved one during their height of happiness together through illness and death prefer to live in the land of bitterness, sadness, anger, regret, depression and loneliness for many years because something inside themselves lead them to believe that they have had their one chance at happiness in this life and see loving another as being no less than an act of betrayal to one’s last love.

People foolishly allow previous mistakes they have made with people to deter them from ever taking future risks where fragile feelings are concerned. Even happily married people who find themselves bereaved in later life can still find new love in another. It may not be the same type of love previously experienced yet can be every bit as meaningful and satisfactory in its difference.

While I have made my own mistakes in both matters of love and life, I have never been afraid to either love or to live. I think that the secret is to always make oneself emotionally available and emotionally and honestly expressive. It is impossible for another to discern and therefore discover what is in another’s heart that remains closed to all manner of approach.

I also believe that until one is ‘at peace with oneself’, one will find it extremely difficult; nay, nigh impossible to be at peace with another or be able to healthily withstand and come to emotional terms with the death, distance or absence of another.

Love and peace Bill xxx

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Song For Today: 8th July 2019

8/7/2019

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Today’s song is ‘Sunshine on My Shoulder’, (sometimes titled simply ‘Sunshine’) is a song recorded and co-written by American song writer and singer, John Denver. It was originally released as an album track on 1971's ‘Poems, Prayers and Promises’ and later, as a single in 1973. It went to Number 1 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ chart in the U.S. in early 1974.

Denver described how he wrote ‘Sunshine on My Shoulders in the following words: "I wrote the song in Minnesota at the time I call 'late winter, early spring'. It was a dreary day, grey and slushy. The snow was melting, and it was too cold to go outside and have fun, but God, you're ready for spring. You want to get outdoors again and you're waiting for that sun to shine, and you remember how sometimes just the sun itself can make you feel good. And in that very melancholy frame of mind I wrote 'Sunshine on My Shoulders'."

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I have always loved John Denver’s songs. He was such a naturalist who loved the outside life and the simple and natural beauties of life. He loved America, and proudly sang about all the places he loved and the aspects of nature that daily surrounded him, such as the sun, the trees, the country roads; anything we can all have for the mere looking and loving of life. One can look at 1000 photographs of America, read 100 books on America and still not learn about what is most beautiful in America until one has heard the songs of John Denver.

Love and peace Bill xxx
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Song For Today: 7th July 2019

7/7/2019

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‘What Kind of Fool Am I’ is today’s song. This popular song was written by Leslie Bricusse and Anthony Newley and was published in 1962. It was introduced by Anthony Newley in the musical ‘Stop the World-I Want to Get Off’. Bricusse and Newley received the ‘1961 Ivor Novello Award for Best Song Musically and Lyrically’, and the ‘1963 Grammy Award for Song of the Year’, becoming the first Britons to do so.

The song has been covered by numerous artists such as Tony Bennett: Sammy Davis Junior: Andy Williams: Shirley Bassey and Perry Como to name a few. Because of Newley's high pitched voice, I will need to make a couple of key changes to sing this song. 

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Have you ever come across somebody who was always playing tricks on people and acting the fool? Can you remember Harry Secombe, the Welsh actor, singer, performer and comedian? Indeed, his most famous radio programme was being one of ‘The Goons’. Harry was a marvellous singer. He could have entered the operatic field earlier in his life had he so chosen. I will never forget my mother-in-law’s frequent frustration with Harry when he appeared on the television and started singing some operatic number. She would urge him from her armchair, “Go on, Harry. Don’t stop this time, keep on singing!”. And as always, halfway through his perfect rendition of some operatic song, Harry would stop and start ‘fooling around’.

I never did meet Harry Secombe face-to-face, but I did once have the pleasure of hearing his background barracking and fooling around one morning when the late Roy Castle phoned me. Roy (who was dying from cancer at the time) had just been discharged from the hospital after another relapse and was resuming his career at the ‘Crucible Theatre’, Sheffield. He was on the same bill as Harry Secombe, who happened to be in the same room when Roy telephoned me. Prior to his illness, Roy had agreed to read one of my books to an assembly of school children in a Liversedge school on the day that the book was published. Roy’s hospital admission had prevented him being able to keep this engagement, but he nevertheless phoned me before I went into the school that day to wish me good luck with the book launch that the Leeds United and Juventus Footballer, the late John Charles had agreed to stand in as ‘substitute’ celebrity reader.

I was so moved that a famous person like Roy who (mere days after leaving the hospital to die a few months later), could be bothered to phone a relatively unknown author from West Yorkshire and wish him luck on his book launch. I thanked Roy and promised him that I’d write my next book on behalf of his charity, ‘The Roy Castle Appeal’. Roy replied, “I won’t be around to read it, Bill, but the birds will still sing, the grass and the flowers will still grow, the wind will still blow, and the meadow streams will still run”. At that precise moment (I assume that in the background, Harry Secombe could hear every word of our conversation that was probably on speaker mode), Harry could be heard to say to his close friend, Roy, “Don’t be silly, you daft beggar. You’ll be around for some time yet!”

Within two months, Roy had sadly died. The book I wrote for his charity as promised. ’Nancy’s Song’ (a story about a musically talented family and the emotional effects that the death of the father has on his wife and daughter). This story handles the process of bereavement in a book for both children and adults and its reading invariably producers tears in the reader/listener whether adult or child. It proved a commercial success and raised around £10,000 for charity. I will never forget when Hannah Hauxwell and the late Brian Glover and Gorden Kaye (to name but three readers of the book to school assemblies) each had school assemblies of over two hundred people in tears ( Teachers, parents and school children) as they read from the book. My own brother Peter was having the book read to him by a family member as he drove the car. He had to stop the car and cry in a lay-bye after the story had emotionally moved him to unstoppable tears.

I can honestly recommend the book to any parent who wishes to acquaint their 9-year-old child and over, with the reality of bereavement after the loss of a loved one, but would ask them to be present as the child reads the book, or on hand immediately afterwards as it will undoubtedly emotionally upset them.

In my life, I have known many fools. Some were clever men acting the fool, and some were highly accomplished and talented men like Harry Secombe. There were also some, of whom I’m left in no doubt were fools!

Love and Peace Bill xxx

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