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January 31st, 2017

31/1/2017

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Thought for today:
"Six months ago I went into hospital to get my two hands operated on. When I phoned the hospital beforehand to check if my platelet count was high enough to have the operation, I learned that they were extremely low. The cancer ward said that I should cancel the operation, but the blood lab and the hand surgeon said it would be okay to go ahead with it. It is like one hand didn't know what
 the other hand was doing. Tomorrow, I face a similar dilemma, but more pressing. If my platelets are too low, my planned chemo therapy will be postponed again and I wont also be able to get my vital pacemaker exchange that only has three weeks left. As I think back, getting my hands operated on, along with all the people who have touched me on my own journey through life, naturally took my morning thoughts to those of 'touch.'

The people who touch our lives more than any others are those who are prepared to reach out. They have learned that often the greatest journeys through life begin with nothing more than reaching out and holding another's hand. Often, people can derive more comfort by their hand being tenderly held instead of money being pressed into it. Whenever we reach out to someone in need we learn something essential; that we were born to give. It is only through our acts of giving to others, the things they need more than us, that we truly become acquainted with the good people we were meant to be.

Never reach out your hand unless you are willing to extend it as far as the needs of another. Never withdraw it until it is no longer needed. To offer an empty hand to a person in need is to tease the tragedy of their circumstances and to laugh at them being laid low. Most of us possess much more than we shall ever need and while possession of itself is a natural trait to develop, it undoubtedly becomes easier for a wealthy person to lose touch with their own humanity while they focus upon the richness of their own circumstances instead of the poverty in the lives of others.

Many years ago when I was a child, I asked my mother, 'When we give to charity, how do we know how much to give? How do we know when we've given enough?' My mother, who was the most generous of women and would willingly give away her last penny without second thought replied, 'I would say, Billy, when it hurts to give any more, then you have probably given enough!'

I also remember as a child, a poor neighbour who had a large family to keep and no husband to provide for them. The neighbour was extremely proud, yet lived from hand to mouth, one week to the next. Paradoxically, the only nice thing she possessed in the world was a beautiful red-leather purse which she carried everywhere with her. She handled her purse so much that it was the softest of leather to behold. Nobody would ever see her without her purse in one hand, yet everyone knew that what she proudly carried was always empty, bar a few pennies and half pennies. I often wondered the point anyone might have of carrying around an empty purse, but my mother didn't. Mum knew that one's purse was inversely proportional to one's heart; if one was full the other would have a good chance of being empty and vice versa!

Generosity and compassion to the plight of another requires unselfishness and feeling. If the act isn't colour blind, then it isn't genuine compassion which is being displayed and if the gift is given reluctantly, then it cannot be true generosity." William Forde: January 31st, 2017

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January 30th, 2017.

30/1/2017

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Thought for today:
"You can keep all of your see-through dresses, naked women and skimpy pieces of clothing which cover a small part of a female's body today. For me, nothing could ever beat the images that any fun of the fair would throw up during the swinging sixties. This photo is made all the more glamorous, all the more sensual and all the more appealing to the men of the times because of its enthusiasm and carefree attitude of the easy rider who was out for a laugh with her girlfriends. It simply reinforces to me that it is in the heart of innocence where true sexual appeal resides in abundance." William Forde: January 30th, 2017.
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January 29th, 2017.

29/1/2017

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Thought for today:
"As an established author since 1989, I am frequently asked about the inspiration for my sources and the background material to my stories. Most common among the questions asked are (1) 'Is the content biographical?' and (2) 'Are your story characters real people you have known in your life?' The short answer to both these questions in that order is 'partly' and 'mostly'.

Over the years I have run several dozen creative writing courses for school children between the ages of 10 and 18 years. Their most common question asked would invariably be,'What do I write about?' to which my reply would always be, 'Write about something you know, and that means something emotional to you.' I want them to know that we own everything that happens to us.The class teachers always preferred this approach, as it enabled those pupils who were poor in material circumstances and of less academic ability, but rich in understanding the hard knocks and sad experiences in life, to be advantaged in the class for once. Such sad and hard experiences that some pupils had to draw upon, led to some of the finest writing I have known come from the pen of a youngster who could barely write a sentence previously. All that I was doing was getting the pupils to express their honest feelings on paper and once they started to express themselves about something they knew and which came from their lives, they were captured.

​The pupils who had the hardest of home lives were streets ahead of those pupils who lived in more comfortable household surroundings and were encouraged by their parents daily to succeed. Once I got across the benefits in health terms for being able to honestly express one's feelings, particularly bad feelings which had been repressed for many years, most pupils saw the creative writing process as being life enhancing and many felt it be truly cathartic.

I recall one teacher from Barnsly, where I'd given her class a creative writing course some six months earlier telling me about young Sam, a boy from a large family with an abusive stepfather. The teacher had given her 10-year-old pupils an exercise to complete over the long summer holidays, which was to be handed in upon their September return to school. The exercise was to write an essay about one's holiday experiences. As to be expected, most essays described where the pupil had been for their holidays and all the exotic things they saw and the things they did. As it happened, the teacher was pleased to award 'best essay' to Sam, who'd never before won anything in his life. Sam couldn't afford to go on holiday, and he spent the six weeks running errands and keeping his grandmother company, who sadly died one week before Sam returned to school.

During his six-week holiday break from school, Sam's 15-year-old sister gave birth to a son, one of his brothers came out of prison after having served a two-year custodial sentence and his mother had taken the family and moved into sheltered accommodation to get away from her abusive partner. Sam wrote in his essay that his mum and her partner were unfortunately reconciled after three weeks, but added that those three weeks without her bloke living with them were the most peaceful and trouble-free he'd known for a long time.

​It is therefore with little surprise to discover that an author's first published book will be largely autobiographical. In subsequent books that follow, many of the character experiences and indeed the characters themselves often remain silhouettes of real life people. I often create a character by using a combination of characters I have known in real life and giving them traits from each. Indeed many of the women characters I write about represent a character collage of their good and bad traits.

I remember being very angry with my first wife after our divorce, particularly when she refused to let me see our two children for two years. While it would have been so easy to have lost my temper and knocked her front door in with an axe, I found it more therapeutic and within the law to depict her character in a book I was writing for school children and young adults. I got two photographs, one of my first wife and an uncharitable one of Margaret Thatcher and I arranged for the artist to provide me with a front cover of an angry/greedy woman with blue hair, falling flat on her big bottom, which had been made up from the two images. I called the character 'Mad Maggie'. I then thought about every nasty and evil woman I'd ever known and heard of and gave the 'Mad Maggie' character corresponding traits to match.Every child who read about her, hated her and wanted to see her get her come-uppance.

The beauty was that tens of thousands of my books were sold exclusively to Yorkshire schools each year and my ex-wife (who was a teacher in Yorkshire) would undoubtedly see both book and cover image without 'knowing' that she had been the inspiration! I suppose that in many ways, creativeness can be an act of defiance. Let's face it folks, you can't blame the writer for what his character does and says!

Some people who read books like a bit of 'escapism,' whereas I like to provide them with that experience through my own pieces of 'reality'. Most people read to know that they are not alone in their experiences. I know people who write to give them strength or to obtain insight. I know some who want to be the characters they are not and could never be, and I know others who are afraid to do and express the emotions that their characters do.They effectively give themselves a vicarious pleasure through the creative role of another fictional one.

I have always viewed writing and image construction as being the creative heart of my life. As far as seeing myself as a professional writer, I prefer to view myself as being a social crusader; someone masquerading as a writer or as a proficient amateur who didn't quit after receiving the first rejection slip from the publishers. Initially, we writers tend to write far too much and it takes time and much learning to still be able to write a lengthy and relevant piece; while leaving out the bits that readers might otherwise skip.

​At the end of the day, writing involves the construction of paragraphs alongside a number of images and the ability to tell a story. Deep down, one's imagination and intuition know what to write so the best thing we can do is to take a back seat, don't stand in the way and let it happen. I have one image that corresponds with every paragraph in any book I write. My task then becomes to match that image as precisely as possible with the words I write in that paragraph.The image always shapes the words used. When I am successful, my words are read by the reader who then forms an image in their mind, When the image they form is the very same image that gave me the inspiration to match with the written word initially, I know that I've succeeded in my endeavours. Let's face it, folks, we are each a palette of experiences and emotions with which we paint our images!

I know of so many people who have a book inside them but have never got around to the discipline of writing it. Often, they ask me to write their story for them, but I politely refuse. More often than not, while they may provide many excuses for never having written their book, the real reason is that they fear 'rejection' if it doesn't live up to the reader's expectations. Let me tell you that nothing haunts us more than the things we never say and nothing is more frustrating than the words that we could put on paper, but never write.

​My own advice to everyone is to write that first book, not in the hope of it becoming a best seller and making you rich, but because it is much better out of you than being frustrated inside you! I loved telling stories to my young children at their bedtimes which I made up. I then fell into the role of writing stories for children. I loved writing for children during my earlier years as an author, not so that I could tell them that dragons existed, but in my role as a social crusader, I wanted to show them how the human ones could be beaten." William Forde: January 29th, 2017.
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January 28th, 2017

28/1/2017

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​Thought for today:
"There has never been a life lived when dependency was wholly redundant. We all are dependent on someone to assist in our introduction into the world, our advancement through it and our survival in it; and even in the arrangements of our departure from it.

In the past, woman was dependent on man as the hunter-gatherer and main provider for the family. Children were dependent on their mothers for practical and emotional support whenever needed and pets were dependent on humans to enable them to survive in comfort. As for man, well he has always been dependent on woman for... whatever he has always wanted from her.
Walk down any High Street today and you'll not be able to move five feet before you'll see someone talking or texting on their mobile phone. In fact, most people are dependent upon some particular addiction, lifestyle or preferred role in life to provide them with a regular routine and give them a sense of purpose. Many depend on the State if sick or unemployed, whereas most of us will secretly depend upon our children not to dump us in an Old Folk's Home when we get older.
Whereas some dependencies are essential and desirable, especially where safety is concerned, there are so many dependencies that are not. For example, when one crosses a high suspension bridge in a vehicle, our feelings of security that the 150-year-old bridge isn't going to collapse while we cross it is no doubt vital to our overall sense of well-being. However, women who feel dependent on the presence of a man in her life to validate their worth and existence are totally misguided. It is foolish at the very least to become dependent on any other to the point that you are unable to properly and healthily function if/when they are no longer there.
There are a few beliefs that I would categorically endorse. I would never depend upon the weather, whatever the forecast; and if you live in England and you're out for the day, always stay within arms' length of a good umbrella! Accept that dependency makes slaves out of all of us. The single thing that made me give up smoking after 48 years of the addiction was when I one day acknowledged that I was dependent on the weed. Being a person who likes to be in control of their own behaviour, I knew I was hooked and that thought led me to break my addiction. I acknowledge that one cannot depend on even a good person doing the right thing all the time or a wrong 'un not doing right, anytime! Finally, believe that it is only when one is the master of their own ship can, one sail their own seas." William Forde: January 28th, 2017
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January 27th, 2017

27/1/2017

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'Thought for today:

​'Greece, the Land of Love' by William Forde



​'The first time I saw Greece, was the last time I felt love.
The last time I saw you, you looked out from up above
your apartment by the sea, my tears and waving hand.
When you told me that we'd meet no more, I did not understand
why you'd ended it so suddenly and broke my heart in two,
why you chose to send me on my way, while you faced life anew.

It wasn't that you didn't love me, why you set me free.
but because of darkest secrets when you knew it couldn't be.
When you found out you were dying and had only months to live,
you gave me back my freedom and took back all you had to give,
by saying that we're finished, and the time had come to part,
by pushing me away from you, rubbing salt into my heart.

The next time I returned to Greece, I sought you out again,
I found your apartment empty, and the sunshine turned to rain.
I learned you'd died alone of an illness wracked with pain,
a part of me died right there, that would not rise again.
I found your place of rest, where I gently placed a rose
and on that spot, myself I shot and left Greece in repose. 


No more standing by a window, staring out there all alone,
for I'll be there beside you, laid entwined in dust and bone.
You would not let me share your end, and be there when you fell.
You wished to spare me pain and let me think that you were well.
But the final act was mine alone in our eternal play to please,
by laying down beside you, you returned my love to Greece.'


Copyright: William Forde: January 27th, 2017.
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January 26th, 2017.

26/1/2017

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Thought for today:
"Yesterday evening I was discharged from hospital after a month as an inpatient. While I am back home now in my own comforts and surroundings with my Sheila, I will still have to behave as though I was in the hospital for at least a month if I'm to get through the continuation of my chemo programme for a third cancer they found. So it means plenty of rest and sleep and to regain enough physical strength to manage the next five months of chemo treatment.I would like to thank the hundreds of my facebook friends who daily followed my progress, kept me constantly in their thoughts and prayers and even said Masses for me in England, Ireland, Australia and America. I have not the slightest doubt that your prayers pulled me back from death's door and I urge all of you, never ever forget the power of prayer; and thank you so much. I love you all.

When I was in sideward in the hospital, I looked out of the window often and saw other patients also looking out. One or two waved and some seemed so sad in spirit as to see me or anything else beyond their fear range. That experience got me thinking about the pain that is often contained behind glass; the topic of this morning's post.

A sadness that is seen from behind a glass pane often symbolises the trapped feelings that the subject's body holds at that given time. Whenever I see framed photographs or paintings that are shielded by glass, I imagine all the feelings and emotions of the subject matter to be suspended in time.
It doesn't surprise me, thinking as I do, when I learned that the native Americans refused to have their photograph taken, as they believed to be photographed was to trap one's spirit!

One of my quirks is that I find it impossible to see a framed photograph where the glass has been cracked or broken without having the glass replaced.It is as though I do not want any of the emotions of the subject matter escaping.

Indeed, when I think about some of the saddest moments in my life, it has been leaving someone or having someone leave my presence; and it has usually been through the reflection of a glass window that my lasting image of them has been retained.

I think about the cold winter morning of December 1963, when at the age of 21 years, I emigrated to Canada. Going to live thousands of miles away from home then was a big thing. As I left home, the image of my mother that stayed with me until I returned home two years later, was her crying through the frosted house window pane as she waved me off. My seven-year-old sister Susan was also holding mum's hands and crying to see her big brother go across the other side of the world in the belief that she would never see me again.

Other occasions of remembered sadness include waving a loved one off on a train and watching them through the train window for as long as possible before their image disappeared in a puff of smoke. I recall a girlfriend from Cannock Chase who was a beauty for her 18 years but she gave me the runabout in the courtship stakes. I remember seeing her off in the train on that last weekend when we parted and as the smoke from the engine made her disappear from view, at that precise moment in time, so did my future dreams of what could possibly have been.

I also feel sad when I occasionally look at the framed photographs of my parents and grandparents whom I loved and are all deceased. Trapped beneath that glass are all the feelings I and they felt at the time, all the hopes and fears, all the pleasure and pain.

Perhaps the saddest image I recall behind a glass pane was when the hearse left my sister-in-law's house on the morning she buried her baby who had died in her womb during the1990s. My sister-in-law was informed after five months pregnancy that her baby would be stillborn and she was to carry the dead child inside her it for the full term of her pregnancy. To see the smallness of the cask that contained the minute body for burial inside the funeral car made me cry for the rest of that day and to question my religion and belief in God. Although I have never been a drinker, I recall that was one of the few occasions in my life when I got well and truly drunk. Please note that I said 'got' drunk and not 'was' drunk. My state of intoxication was deliberate and my inner rage so great that I remained emotionally upset for a few weeks and angry with the perceived injustice that occasionally visits the innocent. Despite the Drink and Drive rules that existed at that time, I foolishly drove my car home, parked on the front lawn and knocked down a cherry tree. I stayed in bed for two days and have never been drunk since!" William Forde: January 26th, 2017.
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January 25th, 2017.

25/1/2017

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Thought for today:
"Two days ago, a dear friend of mine and simply the loveliest of men, the television star of 'Allo Allo', Gorden Kaye, died at the age of 75 years. Gorden was a consummate comedian, who through the role of French resistance fighter, Rene Artois, could make the nation laugh without any recourse to smut or bad language.

'Allo Allo' enjoyed huge success in the decade between 1982 and 1992. This was a period in my life when I was also enjoying regional success; as much as a social crusader as an author of children's books. Indeed, one Leeds radio and television presenter once described me on his programme as being 'probably the most contemporary children's author to come out of Yorkshire that nobody has heard of outside Yorkshire.'

Fortunately, the few people who had heard of me and my style of writing for children tended to be of the more famous variety who enjoyed a celebrity lifestyle.To name drop just a few, by way of illustration, there was Norman Wisdom, Rosemary Leach, Virginia McKenna, Christopher Timothy, Timothy West, Prunella Scales, Vera Lynne, plus three princesses, two archbishops and three prime ministers who read or supported my writings. Between 1989 and 2002, over 860 famous names read from my books in Yorkshire school assemblies, and after Princess Dianna had contacted me to request that I send her two of my books that were selling like hot cakes directly to Yorkshire schools to read to her 9 and 7-year-old sons, Princes William and Harry at their bedtime, my name was mentioned more often in the media. Nelson Mandela's telephone call to me in 2000 to describe an African Indian Trilogy I'd written and which he'd read as being 'Wonderful' essentially cemented my credentials as an author along with the £200,000 book sale profits I gave to charitable causes in perpetuity.

Back to Gorden, whose name was spelled wrongly by the Actor's Union, and which he left unchanged, the breadth and scope of his acting were wider than most folks imagine. Can you remember him as Elsie Tanner's nephew, Bernard Butler in 1970, or any of his appearances in 'Last of the Summer Wine','It aint half hot Mum', 'Emmerdale', or 'Are you being Served?'

Gorden was born in Huddersfield and he was one of the few famous people who read from my books that took many communications, emotional blackmail, and all my Irish Blarney to convince over one full year of phone and letter contacts.The reason was basically twofold; his acute shyness whenever on a public stage and the fact that he was gay by both nature and sexual orientation.

It was during the early 80s when Aids was first mentioned in the British press and an epidemic was forecast. I first invited Gorden to read for me in a Huddersfield school assembly of children in 1989, but he initially declined, citing 'shyness' as his prime excuse. After the first time he read to an assembly of children in Milnsbridge, Huddersfield, in mid 1990, he went on to read for me four or five times in Yorkshire schools 'on the proviso that no press or radio and tv media be informed in advance and only the Head of the school being read at would know who their famous reader was. This remained the one condition he insisted upon. He did not mind the press knowing that he'd been after he'd gone, but not before or during!

Whenever Gorden read for me, we would meet up at an out of the way cafe for coffee beforehand where we could talk without him being pestered or recognised and buttonholed, or we would go to a private home contact for lunch. It was during these conversations held with him on those occasions that he told me why he first feared reading to children in public. The bottom line was the prejudice he had himself faced growing up and the then, generally held view by many 'poof bashers' as he called them, who believed all children to be unsafe in the presence of a homosexual man. He essentially had been reared at a time when being 'gay' was automatically considered to be child molesters and paedophiles.
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Gorden taught me more about gay discrimination than any person I ever knew.He was one of the nicest men I ever knew and I would have trusted him in the sole presence of any child I ever knew and loved. God bless you mate for all the love you brought through the laughter you created. Rest in peace. I am so glad I knew you briefly and I haven't the slightest doubt that as soon as St Peter sees you coming, you'll be met by a chorus of 'Allo Allo, Gorden. Come on in!'. Love Bill x" William Forde :January 25th, 2017.

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January 24th, 2017.

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​"Most of my life has been lived never knowing too much about my family background, apart from what my mum and dad chose to tell me, and because my father never said much about his family's background, I depended largely upon what mum passed on. My mother used to tell me that though her birthday is registered as being January 22nd, she was in fact born on January 24th. Happy birthday, Mum. I can't believe that over thirty years have elapsed since you died at the young age of 64 years. You were the most unselfish woman, whom, alongside my wife, Shiela, I ever knew. If there was only eight pieces of apple pie around our family table of nine seated, you would serve it out, declaring, 'I never did like apple pie, you know!' I love you, Mum. Your heart was a deep abyss, filled with love, generosity, compassion and forgiveness and a sense of humour at it's bottom.

Because I had been born in Southern Ireland in the heart of IRA country, along with my parents and two of my younger siblings, there always seemed to be a short straw drawn whenever I asked about my grandparents' background or their parents. The family mystery also deepened when it came about that though I was the eldest of seven children born to the same parents, some had their surname 'Forde' spelt with the 'e' and others didn't! This discrepancy in the spelling of our surname would have simply been passed over without comment had we been schooled in Ireland, and as any Irish nun can tell you, many a child shared a desk with another they knew as their cousin, who was their brother or sister.

However, the surname spelling discrepancy was quickly noticed by our English teachers who marked down all of the siblings whose signature was written without an 'e' for bad spelling and not knowing how to write their own name. If I, as the eldest of the siblings had an 'e' then it naturally followed, so should they! This led them to feel pressured and to adopting an 'e' at the end of their surname before they left school after their first day.

I was born in Portlaw, County Waterford in the house of my maternal grandparents. I was born in bedroom two, on top of mattress seven. My mother told me as a child, that her father had been 'on the run' with the rebels following the 1916 Easter uprising in Dublin and every morning I passed a wall full of framed Irish rebels which adorned the long corridor. They were headed by Kevin Barry, a famous rebel who was imprisoned in Mountjoy Prison and the first Irish Republican to be executed by the British for his part in an Irish Volunteers operation which led to the death of three British soldiers.

A number of years ago, whilst in Kilkenny at the family funeral of a cousin, I accidentally 'bumped into' my cousin John. Before that meeting, John didn't know I existed. After the funeral of cousin, Teresa, I was standing in a crowded Kilkenny pub where the funeral party had naturally progressed to after the graveside service. At my back I overheard two men talking about a football hero of theirs who played for Kilkenny and also for the Irish national soccer squad. 'The best soccer player I ever saw on the field was Paddy Forde' I heard one man tell the other. 'He was my uncle' replied the other man proudly, who I tapped on the back to draw his attention before saying, 'And he was my dad!'

My cousin John who lived in Wales was overjoyed to meet me. He had sadly told his wife earlier that day that now his cousin Teresa had died, he was the only 'Ford' left alive. I'm glad to say that he was overjoyed to learn that he had a large number of 'Forde' relatives living in West Yorkshire and since he rediscovered his family roots, he and his wife Lynne now keep in regular contact.

John's father and mine were the closest of brothers. John's surname was the Ford without an 'e'. Over the years that followed, we frequently ribbed each other as to who was living the life of a fraud using the wrong surname and whose marriage might be null and void and children illegitimate as a consequence of supplying inaccurate information to the Registrar of Births, Marriages and Deaths?

In October 2015, my daughter Rebecca showed me a family tree which her maternal grandfather, whose newfound hobby is genealogy, had recently researched. It felt like I was on that popular television programme, 'Who do you think you are?' as the murky waters of my past revealed some surprises. I discovered that my paternal grandfather had been born in England, joined the British Army and was posted to Ireland where he lived thereafter. His army service resulted in him receiving not medals of distinction, but a prison sentence for 'Desertion' from the British Army. We never knew if it was because he had changed his sympathies from the British Crown to the IRA or whether he'd just had enough of army life and peeling spuds and decided to leg it. The records show that he was subsequently incarcerated in Mountjoy Prison; that hallowed jail which had held the Irish rebel, Kevin Barry many years earlier. I couldn't say that it was the same cell from which Kevin Barry made his final walk to meet his executioner, but it could have been! The prison records and a later census showed that when he entered Mountjoy Prison, my paternal grandfather's surname was registered as being Ford without an 'e', but upon his release, the letter 'e' was instantly and mysteriously adopted by him and the new family surname magically became 'Forde' with an 'e'. So it seems that I have been spelling my surname wrong for the whole of my life however accurately/inaccurately my birth was registered; but I'm not changing the spelling of it now, having owned it for 74 years!

When my parent's seven children were born, the ones that my mother registered were given no 'e' whilst the ones my father registered were! I should have guessed that if one of my parents was telling the whole truth, it would have been my mother! Upon examining the family tree further, I learned that despite being the eldest of seven children, that for over seventy years, the sister I'd been calling Eileen all of her life had in fact been named 'Eile' on her birth certificate. My other siblings had always invariably referred to her as Eile and each time I heard this, I just put it down to some short-handed lazy practice they'd picked up. The reason I called her Eileen is because that is the name my mother always addressed her by, and having done so for seventy-two years now, if it was good enough for the mum who gave birth to her, then it remained good enough for me! It is a puzzle though why mum should have Christened her Eile yet called her Eileen for the rest of her life, although perhaps less of a puzzle I imagine, being a mama's boy, why I should have listened to mum all my life and ignored my other six siblings! As far as I was concerned, if it passed my mother's lips, and wasn't food, a bottle of stout, a prayer, a kiss or a cigarette, then it must have been God's solemn truth!
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It's a real mixed up world we Irish live in, when one thinks about it. No wonder the English have never able to conquer the Irish on the battlefield. It isn't because of the proneness of the Irish to hide in bushes during skirmishes whenever they fired upon the enemy: but rather that they kept changing sides and changing name, or mingling too closely with relatives less distant than first cousins; thereby making it impossible for anyone to know and keep track of who was friend or foe, sister or cousin! Happy birthday Mum xxx" William Forde: January 24th, 2017.



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January 23rd, 2017

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 Thought for today:


"To truly be a person who lives on the edge of life, there has to be a constant risk of 'going over'. I have long thought that the only real battle in life is between hanging on and letting go; knowing when to surrender and when to resist. All people who live their life boldly, wildly, and beautifully live life on the edge. For the past month in hospital, I know that I've walked that edge, and am still perilously close to it, but during the past 24 hours, I  feel like I can move in a step towards the the safety of the mainland.

As I get older, I am strengthened in the belief that too many people worry about how old they are or what kind of illnesses and poor health they've had in the past. If there is one thing I am sure of, it is that a preoccupation with age and illness places too many constrictions on one's life! Paradoxically, since I learned to look death in the face after being informed of my terminal illness some four years ago, I have never felt so alive. Whereas one time, I might spend many months thinking about the next book I would write, today I cannot get pen to paper quick enough and I have ideas constantly generating about my next few books.I only have to meet a stranger, visit a new thought and a new story starts to germinate at the back of my brain.

I often feel that the longest and most meaningful journey in life we take is a journey into ourselves. Every day we walk in peace and love, we walk with God. Every emotion we experience and everything we express; a smile, a love, a tear, a lust, a learning, an awakening, a memory, a dream, a vision, a laughter, a joy, or even a forlorn hope is what we carry in our rug-sack. We become happiest once we realise that life can be hell, hell can be now, but so is heaven! If you are wise, you will embrace change instead of feeling threatened by it, and you will always place yourself in a position whereby you can readily divorce your past, court your present and marry your future.

I have always found that life will not stand around if you give it something to do. At its very least, its unpredictablity will keep you on your toes. The busiest people are often the happiest. If their life's is driven by passion, their legacy of not being easily forgotten is guaranteed.


A sad irony is that we all have an edge, whether it be the person with the fullest and most satisfactory of lives or the unhappy and depressive person who has very little going for them. The peculiar part of our nature is that both types cannot avoid walking the line from time to time in their lives. I see strong, opposing emotions like love and hate, satisfaction and disappointment, rejection and self-acceptance, finding purpose or fearing helplessness, I find all these feelings as being capable of taking one to the edge of life. 

The closest that I can think of a happy person living on the edge is to love someone without qualification. Love asks us all to be bolder and braver than is often comfortable to be. It requires us to be a little more generous, far more understanding and infinitely compassionate and flexible. In many ways it means being prepared trust one's footing during all our travels. "William Forde: January 23rd, 2017.

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January 22nd, 2017.

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Thought for today:
"Friendships are forged in both the most familiar and the strangest of places. We have childhood friends, school friends, university friends, neighbourhood friends, work friends, girlfriends, boyfriends and best friends. For some, brothers, sisters, mothers, fathers, husbands, wives, and lovers are also natural friends!

Indeed, it could be argued that we spend a great deal of our lives building friendships, and whichever way we cut it, we all need to know that there is someone out there who 'gets us'. I would even go so far as to say that it is part of the human condition to crave a closeness with other human beings.

Whether we have a small group of close friends or an extended group of widely different personalities around us, each relationship  brings something new into our lives and provides us with the inspiration to see the world from a different angle. Some friends will be a mirror likeness of ourselves whereas others will be as opposite to us as chalk is to cheese. Some we may use as a shoulder to lean/cry on during hard times, and others will become our cheer leaders and enablers, rooting us on in all weathers.

Each friendship offers us something unique to treasure. Hence, friendship should never be abused, betrayed or taken for granted. If we are wise, we will spend time cultivating such friendships and learning to be there when most needed. That is why the best time to turn up in your friend's life is when they are most likely to need you; after breakups, at graduations, upon being informed of a serious illness, at weddings, Christenings and funerals. Whether near of far, our friends have an eternal place in our hearts.

While I have had many mates and associates throughout my life, I could count my close friends on the digits of both hands. Indeed, my friends were so important a part of my life that they help form me as much as many other experiences. And the strangest of all, is that I don't have to tell them I love them or that I often think of them, or that I miss their regular presence in my life since they moved away; they know it as do I with them.


When it comes to 'independence', I am as independent a person as they come, yet I know the true value of friendship. Ever since I was informed three years ago that I had a terminal illness, contacts from family and friends has sustained me as much as any medicine/medical treatment ever could. The mere fact of knowing that I do not travel my journey alone is the greatest support of all. I would rather walk any distance with a friend in the dark than walk alone in the light.

I have had some exceptional friends in my life, among whom I am proud to say that my brothers, sisters, mother and wife stand tallest. One of my oldest friends, Tony Walsh, whom I have known since teenage years and who has lived back in Ireland for the past fifty years, is a good example. We were too close in friendship when Tony returned to Ireland fifty years ago for us to say 'Goodbye', so instead, I have always considered it that he went on 'an extended leave of absence'. We have only met up four or five times since, but when such occasions occur, within seconds, it is as though we never parted and our last conversation naturally continues where it left off. Don't get me wrong, Tony and I were never clones of each other. Were I to jump off a bridge, he wouldn't jump after me, but I could rely on him being below to catch me before I hit the ground. That's what I call a close friend, perhaps even a flat mate!" William Forde: January 22nd, 2017.
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January 21st, 2017

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Thought for today::
"In your light I learned to love. When I first met Sheila in 2010 in a cafe on Main Street, Haworth, I immediately sensed the bridge that existed between my most romantic dream and wildest possibility. My decision to make a mere second visit one week later was certainly one of my better judgements.

Initially, I looked for the purpose behind me wanting to meet her again. After all, our first meeting had gone well, but I hadn't noticed any frisson of romance lingering in the air as we parted; a certain curiosity perhaps. And yet, I told myself that if my mind was on this new woman on my horizon, I really must have been responding to a call that excited my spirits. 

That second visit between us started to open up a range of possibilities for each of us. I was instantly struck by the innocence of her thought and the unselfish nature of her ways. Sheila epitomised the logic of making all reason redundant and purpose powerless in the expression of love. I could sense the spiritual connection between us; the only time in my life when I have had this shared experience with someone I loved. Sheila taught me that there are so many ways one can reach happiness and touch the soul of another, and that love was the one emotion that is guaranteed to get you there.

It took no more than three meetings to know my search had ended.The third time we met, I just knew that what I'd always been looking for had always been you. In fact, I'd go so far as to say that the minute I heard my first love story was the moment I started looking for you.



While there have been too many precious things that you've taught me, Sheila, perhaps the most wonderful has been to let the beauty of what you love and be, be what you do." William Forde: January 21st , 2017.

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January 20th, 2017.

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Thought for today:
"My mother never had much money to give her children when we were growing up, but she always gave her four sons the best of advice when it came to manners. She used to remind us of the 'musts of manners' for all boys as being (1) Always say please and thank you, (2) Never strike a female, whatever the provocation, (3) Always give up your seat for a woman or old person, (4) Respect your parents and elders and (5) Don't talk back.

Her golden rule relating to manners, however, pertained to the cleanliness of a male's shoes. I recall her once telling me. 'Billy, anyone who is a 'gentleman' at the age of 7 years, is going to remain a gentleman for the rest of their life'. She also used to tell me that the mark of every gentleman was reflected in the shine of his polished shoes. 

I must point out that whereas, mum's advice was usually right, when it came to being able to determine a gentleman by the cleanliness of his shoes, she was way wrong! As a Probation Office in later years, I knew many rapists, wife beaters, child molesters and murderers who would have considered themselves not being fully dressed, had they entered the scene of their crime wearing unclean shoes. Indeed, being able to see the reflection of their victim's fear and anguish in their highly polished shoes at the precise moment they were killing and violating them was probably one of their most bizzare turn on!

Where mum was undoubtedly right, however was when she advised that a gentleman's manners are the same at home as when he is out on public view. She frequently told my father this, knowing that he had manners for home and manners for out. Essentially, mum believed that good manners crossed all classes and that the wish of every noble man was to live a good life and die a gentleman.

I was once told by a very elderly gentleman that a man should never divorce, even if he happened to find he had married the wrong woman. He was of the old school and sincerely believed that if you'd been fortunate and had married a good wife you'd be happy and if not, his advice was to take up reading romantic novels and become a philosopher. 

I was born in Ireland and over the years, I attended a great many Irish funerals. I was in my twenties before the marked similarities of the Irish funeral dawned on me. As the coffin was lowered into the ground at the graveside, the presiding priest would always proclaim the dearly departed as having been a scholar, a philosopher, and a gentleman. In my early years, upon hearing these words, I regretted never having really known this great man. There would be a great many attendances at numerous Irish funerals over the years before I realised that every Irish man who ever died since the Potato Famine, had been described at his graveside by the parish priest as having been a scholar, philosopher and gentleman! It would seem to be an automatic inclusion in the dearly departed burial rights for anyone donating thirty pounds to the retired priest funds in Portlaw, County Waterford." William Forde: January 20th, 2017.


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January 19th, 2017

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'Children are the stars' by William Forde.

"While planets reach from Earth to Mars,
it is our children who are stars.
They are the ones who light our way,
the only ones who hold no sway
with all the worldly wrongs in life, 
all war, destruction, senseless strife.


When adult's ways fail children, they manage to fail all,
for only children pose the questions wise men cannot call. 
Only child eyes smell the oceans and a longing to be free,
it is they who see the middle earth from heaven to the sea.
It is they who make the waves light up the milky way to Mars, 
it is they who are life's future, it is they who are the stars.'


​Copyright: William Forde: January 19th, 2016.
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January 18th, 2017

18/1/2017

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Thought for today:

"It is often said that with 'faith', any struggle we encounter in life is possible! What faith does essentially, is that it maximises the most positive outcome of the possibilities. For example, I have a terminal illness and my faith in God and positive attitude towards life itself will not necessarily alter my terminal condition, but will, I believe both extend my life for as long as possible and provide me with the physical and emotional strength to carry on living and help me die in some measure of peace. In some respects therefore, modesty aside, faith can often be man's reason that has grown courageous the less he considers the outcome.

We all know that dawn each day is marked by the morning chorus of birdsong. I like to think of my faith as being like the bird that sings when dawn is dark. Since my terminal illness, three years ago, I have effectively been walking in the dark. Acknowledging my condition and its inevitable consequences was, in many ways like taking the first step on an uncharted journey into the future. I know that many of my family and friends see my response to my three body cancers my body now carries, (blood, skin and stomach) as being somewhat courageous, like the quiet cousin of courage, I prefer to view my faith more pragmatically.

Over the years, my faith has undoubtedly strengthened; my faith in self, family, friends, others and God. As faith has strengthened, I no longer need to have a sense of control. I merely need to exercise common sense and sound judgement. I know that what will be will be and if I don't try to resist these changes in my life, I will be able to flow with them and not drowned in the process. I also know that the more I can make my life be involved with life and others today, the greater the likelihood that I will see a tomorrow.

So, have faith my friends and stay realistic in your expectations. Know that there is a life that you control largely and influence, but that there is also a life that is beyond your control. So, have faith and believe in the goodness of oneself, for faith never did promise to make things easy; just possible." William Forde: January 18th, 2017.
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January 17th, 2017.

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Thought for today:
“When we lock things away, particularly bad experiences and refuse to emotionally deal with them, we're really imprisoning ourselves. Sometimes our mind can imprison our body and can put the body under severe constraint. Whenever this occurs, there is only one way for your body to be free: to free your mind!

As the Jamaican freedom fighter, reggae singer and troubador, Bob Marley said in his 'Redemtion Song': 'Emancipoate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds,' he was gently reminding us that no prison will ever be capable of chaining the freedom of the mind.

Freedom involves being able to think our own thoughts, express our own beliefs and live our own lives. We are all entitled to hold our own opinion and indeed, express it appropriately, but it can also be wise in some circumstances to keep quiet

I always remember my early years as a Probation Officer in Huddersfield. At that time, the minimum period of custodial sentence anyone under the age of 18 would get for offences of burglary or violence was two years in Borstal. As a general rule, good behaviour during sentence would result in the reduction of time served, but bad behaviour would always lead to the young inmate serving longer. 


I recall the only young man I ever knew who's original two years Borstal sentence was extended to him serving a full three years maximum before he was released on licence. His name was Bernard, who was an orphan who'd been brought up in Barnardo Homes; a likeable rogue with a string of convictions against his name for violent offences since the age of ten years (the youngest age for which a child can be criminally responsible). Bernard's problem was that he could never button his lip or take orders from his seniors, especially whenever the Borstal guards were deliberately riling him. The guards thought him to be a cocky young chap who would finish up in and out of prison all his life if he couldn't learn to control his aggressive temper. They knew that they could easily goad him and if they did, he'd responded either verbally or physically aggressively to their actions. Subsequently, they would deliberately insult him and taunt him into hitting out! When he did hit back, Bernard would receive an automatic three-month increase of sentence added on to his original two years!

At that time, I was promoting 'Relaxation Training' inside institutions and I gained permission from the Borstal Governer to give Bernard two hour's Relaxation Training weekly over a six month period. Although highly skeptical at first, Bernard tried his best to learn the discipline, just so he could get one over on the borstal guards. They frequently taunted him that he was no better than a wild animal and knew that he'd always respond like an animal when under threat. Bernard had been known to bite ankles and even ears off his opponents whenever fighting.

When Bernard was washing the floors, his bucket might be deliberately kicked over by a passing guard attemting to goad him. Our first exercise was to have the bucket kicked over without 'outwardly' responding. This took ten weeks to achieve. Once Bernard realised that when such taunts happened, he was still allowed to consider the offending officer a fat head or whatever uncharitable name he wished to call him So long as he 'thought it' but never 'voiced it', nobody would ever again be able to control the outcome of his response.

'Think it' but don't 'say it' became the best strategy that Bernard ever learnt. During the years ahead, I would often see Bernard and his wife pushing a pram around Huddersfield and smiling like a sunbeam. He always stopped to say 'Hello' to me once after he'd settled down and had married and fathered three children. I recall us talking about his borstal days and he smilingly indicated to me that he frequently uses the same technique whenever he is in dispute with his fiery wife. He may smilingly say 'Yes, my love. Three bags full, my love' while inwardly thinking, 'Go boil your fat head .....my love!'

I think we are all guilty of this strategic device from time to time, aren't we?" William Forde: January 17th, 2017.

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January 16th, 2017.

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Thought for today:
"I recently came across this old picture of 'Cleckheaton Golf Club' which is situated a little distance beyond the 'Chain Bar' motorway roundabout at Moorend, Cleckheaton. The picture evoked memories of the times I regularly acted as a Caddy and carried the heavy bags filled with clubs around 18 holes on many a Sunday afternoon in my sixteenth year of life.

Having been unable to walk between the ages of 12-15 years, by my 16th year, I had just started to get my mobility back. Consequently, I found the three hour task on a Sunday afternoon, in all weathers, often difficult to negotiate. The wage for being a Caddy in 1959 was half a crown (little more than a ten penny piece today), but before 1960, such an amount would gain one entry to a Town Hall dance, or two visits to the picture house, two and a half pints of beer or a packet of twenty cigarettes. As for travelling to and from home to the golf club, a distance of a six-mile round trip by bicycle, I used to consider that part of the Caddy contract which was unpaid, to be no different to the three-mile walk my mining father daily made (unpaid) from pit head to coal seam. He used to tell me that his wage for the day only started after he'd raised his pick to hew the coal and ended immediately after he'd downed it!

When I think back, I was in no way different or unusual to all the other boys and girls of my generation who'd been brought up on Windybank Estate, who'd been born into working class households where the family food for this week was always paid for out of my father's next week wages. All my mates from the estate had at least two part time jobs in order to earn some spending money; and some even held down three or more! Very few of the people I grew up with ever got owt for nowt and therefore we grew up with the expectation of self reliance. Indeed, that is why probably the most popular of Yorkshire sayings is, 'Hear all, see all, say nowt; tak' all, keep all, gie nowt, and if tha ever does owt for nowt, do it for thysen.' 

I recall such times, not in regret, but rather out of celebration of the richest of lives we lived during the 50s and 60s. I was in my early thirties before I found myself paying for a round of golf in Mirfield, and by that time Caddys were a role of the past. Nobody carried clubs around the 18 holes anymore; they were either wheeled in an open forerunner to the wheelie suitcase we are all familiar with today or even driven around in the golf buggies of the rich.

Why the way of life my contemporaries and I lived was much better than today, was that it not only helped to build character and develop self reliance, but the ways that we earned the money from our spare jobs essentially kept us fit and healthy in the process. Well, I ask you; could you imagine any child of the New Millennium walking two miles to the shops daily to buy a loaf of bread. I know that if they are like my daughter Rebbeca who lives in London, all they do today is pick up the phone and get a shop delivery from the local supermarket! They'll be expecting to buy their bread sliced next!" William Forde: January 16th, 2017.
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January 15th, 2017

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Thought for today:
"Lovers do not meet by accident; they are in each other all along. Out beyond all ideas of right and wrong, there is a field where life's dreams meet. When two mind's meet and two hearts touch, two world's combine to make one universal declaration of everlasting love. It is pointless trying to define it, as it is beyond the rays of any cosmic understanding or galactic comprehension. Its seed was born in the heavens and as it floated through the galaxy and down to earth, it grew within the clouds, whose kiss the wind blew in your direction. The moment you arrived in my life,Sheila, I sensed the fusion of two souls bound together for eternity. I needed none other to tell me that I loved you and always would, because I always had. Oh, what a joy to travel the way of the heart" William Forde: January 15th, 2017
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January 1st, 2017

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Thought for today:

"Sorry but a late post again. I had an unsettled night of interrupted sleep and constant coughing. Woke up weak in body, breathless and tired. Nothing can improve until the hospital can examine all the tests to come back in the New Year. It's a case of stay in a hospital bed meanwhile or occupy my own bed, where I have less chance of picking up another infection from being on a hospital ward.

​Sheila and I wish all of our family and friends a very happy New Year. May peace, happiness and good health be your constant companions and may you never be too far away from you partners, family, friends, neighbours and God to appreciate all the days of last year and the year still to come.

Ever since Sheila hitched her wagon up to mine four years ago, the ride has been the best of journeys, despite the bumpy ground beneath us travelled. I have known love before, but never on a scale that I know it now. The beauty is that I both love and feel loved more today than I did yesterday, and yet I know it will be less than I will feel tomorrow.

In years gone by, I never allowed the start of a New Year to pass without the making of a resolution. Last year's language was made up of last year's words, hopes, expectations, and experiences, but this year's words await a new voice befitting my changed circumstances. I make no resolutions for the New Year of 2017, for the practice of making plans is too tenuous a task for the man who has everything he ever wanted out of life and has had much more than he ever deserved. 


Let me keep my Sheila, my Haworth, my family, my friends, my God, my love of writing and my life for another year, for I still have things left unsaid, unseen and undone, and there is still much to do in this fading body of mine before all light is finally extinguished. Happy New Year all. Bill and Sheila xxxxx" January 1st, 2017.
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