"One of the most common, yet futile things that most young men and women do as they are growing up is to find love; common because we all need it and futile because we all possess it.
Please note I am not talking of marriage; important matrimony is to most. No, contrary to what they say, it isn't marriage that changes one; but being in love does and it most certainly changed me!
Being in love is like being in heaven on a rainy day. I love that uncontrollable emotion of 'being in love'; the effect of having butterflies when you wake up every morning and that feeling of warmth and smug satisfaction when you cuddle up in bed each night. It is the strongest emotion I have ever known. As an author, it informs my writing and as a man, it contents me enormously and settles my soul.
Where is it that we humans tend to go wrong than when seeking this experience? I know that we will not find love in good looks. Being attractive of body and face may initially excite you, but will not sustain you. Besides, the problem with human attraction is not knowing if it will be returned. Far, far better to give out love because one loves; not so that it be given back in equal measure.
One of my favourite authors Victor Hugo once expressed the sentiment that it was a grand thing to be loved, but a grander thing still, to love. So first find the love in yourself before seeking it in others and you shall start to love yourself once more and become in love with life itself.
I started my life and my search for love many decades ago and found my truest and most constant love in not my first sweetheart, but my last. I am myself, I am what I am, Sheila, but I am my best self when I am with you." William Forde: January 12th, 2018.