"My life has never been a graveyard of buried hopes and thankfully I have never experienced one day of depression in it. Unfortunately there are people whose lives are wracked with depression and however much one tries to encourage them to see light at the end of the tunnel, they continue to despair because there eyes can only see the terrible end beyond their doubt. They truly believe that their life is over as it has lost all meaning, and because they believe it to be so, it often is!
Losing one's life through accident, illness or even murder is not the worst thing that can happen to a family member. It comes farther down the scale than losing one's reason for living. During my career as a Probation Officer and stress management worker, I encountered a number of suicides in families who were left in utter despair as a consequence. The ones left behind to grieve the loss always partly blamed themselves for not doing more to prevent it, though in most cases they couldn't have.
The last official suicide rates in the United Kingdom is for the year 2013 and stands at 6,233 people aged 15 and over who took their own life. The highest suicide rate fell among men aged 45 years to 59 years. This is the real cost of the economic collapse of the last decade and the almost impossible task of a man between these ages not being able to find a job; any job that will enable him to keep his head and family above high water. With the loss of job comes the loss of self respect, income and even the loss of secure accommodation. Is it surprising therefore that some go on to lose all hope?
Whereas the loss of a bread winner in the family can be hard enough for the bereaved family, the loss of a brother, son, father or husband is the harshest of crosses to bear without the proper support structure available to assist. Remember when you next have cause to pray, spare a moment in thought for those surviving family members who are themselves struggling to survive." William Forde: December 7th, 2015.