"We hear a great deal about 'sex appeal' today, as if it is something one can acquire. Young girls are grown into womanhood in a man-made garden, falsely believing that the more she can look fetching, the greater the likelihood that men will find her more attractive and desirable. Overconcern is given to outward appearance in which weight, hair style, dress and overall look plays too important a part.
By seeking to shape themselves in ways that please man's eyes, too many women foolishly engage in a Faustian pact in which they are prepared to sell their soul to the Devil in exchange, not for knowledge, but superficial beauty. By acting thus they may improve their prospects in the dating field and marriage stakes, but they remain destined never to discover lasting relationships or their own individuality. Instead of discarding their bras in protest, they choose instead to abandon their brains and allow their future self to be defined and validated by the prevailing whim of man's changing desire.
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong by a woman wanting to please her man and vice versa, providing the act is done out of love and not cohersion. As a man, I freely acknowledge that nobody loves to see a beautiful woman more than myself and I willingly admit that a large part of the initial attraction is born of physical desire. Where I know I differ these days to those earlier years however, is that I could never see myself adoring the body of a woman or being married to one today, without first having lived in comfortable cohabitation with her mind and ever closer union with her soul. In many ways, I recognise that my present love for woman has made me a more selfish man than before. I cannot deny that today I want all and am so happy that in my wife Sheila that I have found everything I could ever want.
Sex appeal is something that means many different things to many men. What turns one man on can turn off another. To me, just as beauty is inwardly housed by the owner and naturally comes out in all their other character traits, sex appeal also resides in the inner sanctum of unknowing womanhood.
Women who have sex appeal in my eyes, have it unknowingly. The type of woman who seduces me is a woman who doesn't know she is seductive. She is imbued with an innocence of thought and feeling which is blended with a purity of intent. The very essence of her nature which makes her seductive is the belief that our life together begins at the end of her comfort zone and the start of my restraint." William Forde: September 23rd, 2015.