"Following every storm there's a peace and after every argument there's a making up to be done. These earthly emotions are no different in human make-up than in nature's changing moods and seasons.
Until the age of eleven, I recall my childhood as being very happy. I was loved by my parents, I was well above average in my educational standard and I was very popular with my peers. I was also a great footballer for my age and was determined to play soccar for the Irish national team as my father had done before his marriage to mum. Then I was run over and crippled by a wagon and finished up with a spinal injury. When I was told that I'd never walk again I was angry that my life's plans and dreams had been shattered, along with my legs. It was over three years before I walked again, thanks to relaxation, meditation, visualistion exercises and becoming an ardent follower of Eastern tradtions.
In my later life as a Probation Officer and behaviourist, between 1970 and 2,000, I researched and studied the driving emotions that control and influence one's behaviour pattern through the evaluation of thousands of problematic response patterns. My thirty years of work and research in this field taught me that the emotions of anger, fear, and love are the greatest determinants of all positive and problematic behaviour. I also learned that the expression of love was the most positive determinant of behaviour, with the inability or failure to express love for self and others as producing the most negative and emotionally disturbing behaviour. The next greatest factor influencing one's behaviour pattern was the ability to appropriately express anger and fear. Fail to voluntarily express your anger and instead you involuntarily expressed a surfeit of fear. Repress your fear and you involuntarily expressed a surfeit of anger. Therefore, to reduce your fear level, you learn to express your anger and to reduce your anger level, you learn to express your fears.These few facts represent the totality of my thirty years research into people's problematic behaviour patterns and formed the bedrock to the 'Anger Management' courses I founded along the way.
During the early 1970's I founded the very first Anger Management group and within two years, Anger Management had mushroomed across the English speaking world. It has undoubtedly helped millions of people since and this knowledge alone pleases me immensely.
Looking back today upon my life, I can truly say that the stormy part of my youth was the very best thing that could ever have happened to me, including the loss of my mobility. I now know that without the tremendous amount of anger that I then unhealthily expressed, I would never have been the founder of Anger Management in later years and that I would never have known the degree of perfect peace I frequently feel today with myself and the world around me." William Forde :December 15th, 2013.