"What we experience and learn in our childhood, we invariably take with us into adulthood. All manner of behaviour is a learned response which is strenthened and reinforced in one's 'bevioural pattern' by its repetition. The particular type of behaviour (either problematic or non-problematic), if repeated often enough, will become an involuntary response we give out each time we are presented with a similar sensory experience from our past.
In my many years as a Probation Officer who specialised in stress management, behavioural change, relaxation and anger management, I witnessed the bodies of many adults reproduce specific responses to given situations which were first experienced and learned in their childhood.
This is why the effect of a bully, child molester or brutal parent can endure from childhood to old age unless one's old unhealthy and unhelpful responses are unlearned and exchanged with new and heathy body responses. To achieve this change of behavioural response, one requires to learn how to use three disciplines in conjunction with each other: Imagery, Relaxation and Behavioural Rehearsal (Mind control), (Body and mind control) and (Role play practice and real life practice). Any manner of relaxation or meditation discipline is suitable which enables one to gain access to one's imaginative processes.
So if ever an image on the television makes your partner automatically cringe, beware that they are not reliving a similar experience that they had as a child which is being involuntarily reproduced many years later because it is still trapped inside their memory bank and has never been emotionally resolved. Parents and adults, please give our innocent children of today the type of experiences which make our happy young angels grow up into happy adult angels; not sad ones!" William Forde: April 8th, 2014.