"It is an absolute certainty that no one can know their own beauty or perceive a sense of their own worth until it has been reflected back to them in the eyes of another loving being. Like the tide that ebbs and flows, the love we give out always comes back to us in waves of affection, to give out again. One minute you meet a stranger; the next moment they may start to become a lifelong friend. On another occasion, you meet someone for the first time and the next time you look, a lifetime together has happily passed between you, and they've become your eternal sweetheart and soul mate. When you embrace a person and touch their heart, be they friend or sweetheart, the plain truth is that they'll remember that moment forever.
Are you like me? When you see a couple of complete strangers in a romantic or marital relationship, have you ever thought, 'What a contrast! I wonder what he/she sees in her/him. I wonder what he sees in him or what she sees in her? Or instead, do you look for the similarities in the couple, or notice the magical manner that their dog has grown in the image of its owner, or perhaps they in the image of their pet? Whether opposite or like makes the best coupling for you, I know that lasting relationships are the ones where the couple concerned grow to respect their diversities and love their similarities.
Seven years ago today was the very first time that Sheila and I met. Some believe that opposites attract while others swear by like-and-like making the best partners. And then, there are those who dare not make a move unless it's 'written in the stars'. They are the ones who prefer to rely on the planets and the astrological signs to tell them 'who is the right one for me?' instead of going with their gut instinct.
I am a Scorpio who has fallen in love many times, but who has only ever loved deeply on four occasions; twice with good outcomes, once sad, and the other, bad. The similarities and coincidental factors in the lives of my four loves are too spooky and far too numerous to simply regard as being mere 'coincidences'. If I didn't believe in the star signs when first walking up Main Street in Haworth and meeting Sheila, I've since started the slow walk down my road of astrological conversion.
As to the similarities of my four loves, each woman had long dark hair and was beautiful in face and fetching in body features. All four women were strong in character, independent in mind and highly educated. Two women had been born under the star sign of Scorpio and two under the star sign of Sagittarius. Two of the women had identical birthdays, having been born on the same day, same month and in the same year, while the other two women had been born on the same day and same month (but not the same year). Incidentally, both my first and last loves were born under the sign of Sagittarius with a Scorpio Moon Sign.
For those Scorpios like me and those born under the sign of Sagittarius like my wife Sheila, here are a few indicators of our personality.
Sheila is a Sagittarius with a Scorpio Moon Sign; her most prominent emotion being 'Secrecy', and with an unfathomable depth of character (Sounds to me like the kind of wife that every man has and no man ever truly understands!).
I am a Scorpio with a Sagittarius Moon Sign; my most prominent emotions and characteristics being, Optimism, Joyfulness, Philosophical, Outward Looking, Impulsiveness, and a person with strong sexual urges; but that's enough about me for the present!
I can vouch from personal experience that when two Scorpios love, they do so with an intensity of the Richard Burton/Liz Taylor stormy relationship; where it seems that you can neither live with them nor without them. But when a Scorpio and a Sagittarius with the Sun and Moon Signs like my first and last woman in my life 'fall in love', it tends to last a lifetime.
I truly loved the first real love of my life, but for a variety of reasons, we never married. I believe that relationship would have lasted had we married. When I met Sheila, the last and the best love of my life, I soon came to know that if we married, it would be forever. Our marriage date and my birthday coincided when we wed in Haworth on the 10th November.
Please note, Sheila has been interested in Astrology for the past forty-five years and has seriously studied the subject for the past twenty years. It was she who provided me with the astrological interpretations of the birth signs mentioned in this post.
At long last, I now know why the very words that Sheila spoke to me when we first met were, ''You'll do. I'm having you!'.
I was walking up Main Street in Haworth at the time past Gascoigne's Restaurant (Now called Haworth Steam Brewery). It was a cold, Wednesday afternoon and the date was the 15th December 2010. I vividly recall the precise moment we first met, as though it was yesterday. I'd never met such a forward, confident and more resolute woman in all my days. Our only contact previously had been a number of e-mails and a few phone calls upon nothing too exciting; the subject of 'relaxation'. With me being a Relaxation Instructor and she a Yoga Instructor, we had lit a mutual spark of interest a month or so earlier to our first meeting that was to ignite into a passionate flame.
Sheila now admits to having done a reading on me before we first met in person. At least she knew what she was getting, whereas I was merely taking a chance on love and hadn't the slightest idea what I was letting myself in for!
There is no greater joy than to love and to feel loved in return. There is no more comfortable feeling at the end of the day than knowing that you are right next to the one you love. A good and lasting union is one where both partners know the enduring pleasure to be gained from a simple hug, a kiss at the start and end of every day and the occasional surprise caress; along with having the stars aligned in your astrological favour!" William Forde: December 15th, 2017.