Patsy Cline stated that she was in Owen Bradley’s office one day, heard the record Smith made, and immediately wanted the song for herself. According to Cline, Smith said, “No you can’t have it. I’m going to see what that Canadian gal does with it.” Cline apparently said ‘pretty please’ but Bradley and the label wouldn’t back down. Smith’s single, released in 1962, didn’t crack the top-40 but sold more than 100,000 copies, a major hit for a first record and enough that the Canadian gal recouped the considerable studio expenses and made a little money in royalties. Patsy Cline wound up recording the song and releasing it in 1963. It didn’t make the hit parade, either. It was her last single before she died in a plane crash in March of that year. Unlike her earlier hits ‘Crazy’ and ‘I Fall to Pieces’, ‘Leaving on Your Mind’ was an unfortunate failure on the pop chart, where it stalled at Number 83. However, the song today remains a classic in Country music.
Due to be released on her next album, that album was never released due to the tragic event that ended her life; a plane crash that March. The album was to be released at the end of March. Instead, the album was released on a double compilation album called ‘The Patsy Cline Story’. This album featured all of Cline's big hits, starting for her first in 1957 to 1963. The album was a huge hit and is still being sold today.
During my own life as an individual and as a Probation Officer for 26 years, I experienced numerous people who found themselves in unhappy relationships. There inevitably came a time when they realised that something had to be done, and from that moment of decision only one thought preoccupied them; 'they had leaving on their mind’ as the only logical response to preserving their sanity, emotional stability and peace of mind.
Where the relationship is without children, some ease of pain is undoubtedly saved at the point of separation but when children are part of the family equation, the decision to stay or go, separate or divorce becomes much harder; especially if the person one marriage partner is leaving has a strong bond with the children to the union.
There have been so many husbands or wives who stayed in a failed marriage ‘because of the children’s sake’. So often, has the decision to leave an unhappy and failed relationship been postponed (often ten or fifteen years) until the children of the union have become older or have negotiated some important next phase of development. The person will often perceive their unselfish action as being no less than simply representing the demonstration of parental duty, whereby sacrificing their own happiness ‘for the sake of the children’ appears to be the only responsible course of action open to them. Often, they may tell themselves or their reprieved partner, ‘I’ll leave you when the children have done their school examinations… or have gone to university… or left home!”
When the threat to leave is ‘put on hold’ until a more suitable time in the lives of their children is made in an unhappy relationship between husband and wife, an uneasy peace prevails between the couple. When, however, the children have left, that is when the person making the threat must declare their hand. They either leave as threatened or decide to stay; leaving them feeling that either their bluff has been called in the marital stakes or they have simply thrown in their hand and stayed at the marriage table.
If you are a person who has ‘leaving on your mind’, whether the leaving pertains to a relationship, affair, marriage, job or any organisation or body, the sooner you come to a decision that meets your needs and which you can emotionally become reconciled with, the better for all concerned’
Love and peace Bill xxx