My song today is, ‘All Out of Love’. This a song by the British/Australian soft-rock duo ‘Air Supply’. Written by Graham Russell ND Clive Davis, the song was released as a single in 1980 from their fifth studio album ‘Lost in Love’. The song's lyrics describe the emotional state of a man desperately trying to win back the love of his life after the couple's separation caused by a wrong done by the man against the woman he's in love with.
In the United States, ‘All Out of Love’ reached Number 2 on the Billboard Hot 100’ chart and it reached Number 5 on the ‘Adult Contemporary Chart’. In the UK, the song reached Number 11 and was their only top 40 hit in the UK. It was placed 92nd in VHI’s list of the ‘100 Greatest Love Songs’ in 2003.
When someone is ‘in love’ with another person, their heart remains closed to the advances of another suitor. That is why any person who is in a long-term relationship and has an affair cannot argue to be truly ‘in love’ with the person they cheated on. This excuse of “It was only sex, it meant nothing” cuts no ice with me. While ‘sex’ and ‘love’ can be separate entities, when a person is ‘in love’ they should not desire or have sex with another, for if they do, then they cannot truly be in love with the person they are currently with!
This is not a moral statement but is purely practical. The other man or woman with whom a married person strays, knows full well what is going on. Should they sense the presence of ‘guilt’ in the other person, after the unfaithful deed has been committed, they often ask, “ If you think what we are doing is wrong, what are you doing here with me?” or “ It’s no good telling me that everything is okay at home if you have to play away in someone else’s house to get what you want!”
There are many feelings which are hard to cope with, and while being dumped is a difficult situation to come to terms with, dumping someone in the haste of the moment, and then realising how much you really loved them afterward and bitterly regretting your foolish action, is a much more difficult one to deal with. It is akin to the situation of a destitute beggar who hasn’t two pennies to rub together. While looking around at the comparative wealth of others to himself, the beggar feels hard done to. And yet, it doesn’t even come close to how badly he would feel if he saw a £50 note on the ground and as he bent down to grab it, he stumbled and fell, and let go of the £50 note. The £50 note was taken airborne by a sudden gust of wind and landed at the feet of a well-heeled gentleman of wealth and property who promptly picked it up and smilingly pocketed it.
They do say that few of us can appreciate what we have until we no longer have it. How true that is! The one good thing to have come out of this current year of Coronavirus has been the realisation of what truly matters to all of us is invariably the things in our daily lives we come to take for granted. It is only when they are taken away from us, their loss seems tenfold. Yet far greater a loss it is when we willingly give them away! Today’s song reminds me of this sentiment.
Love and peace Bill xxx