My song today is ‘Fool if You Think It’s Over’. This song was originally written, composed, and sung, and released in 1978 by the British singer-songwriter, Chris Rea. The single's charting success in the USA earned him a Grammy nomination as ‘Best New Artist’ in 1979.
Too many people foolishly believe a relationship is not over when it patently is, and sadly too many people also believe that a relationship is over when the ‘Decree Absolute’ divorce papers are placed in their hands, and sadly it is not.
The simple truth is nothing should be considered over and done with until (as the saying goes) the fat lady sings! I know that from my own personal experiences, and as too many other people have also discovered to their cost.
Divorce is supposed to end a marital union, just as a wedding is supposed to start one, but was His Royal Highness, Prince Charles, and his second wife, Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall, and the late Diana, Princess of Wales still part of their three-way relationship, and to indulge in a three-way conversation, I am sure that all three would say that both marriage and divorce rarely live up to expectations whenever experienced by the same person/persons.
Events of any order carry with them emotional consequences that are never erased or can be socially smoothed over. We can all imagine that we are ‘getting on with our lives’ after ending one significant relationship and beginning a new one, but ‘getting on’ with a new relationship while ‘casting off’ an old one is one oxymoron too far. The simple truth is that one’s old relationship and one’s new relationship was, is, and shall always remain a part of one’s life (the same life!) Fool if you think it’s over.
Love and peace Bill xxx