Today’s song is ‘When You’re in Love with a Beautiful Woman’. This song was an international successful single by Dr Hook. It was written by Even Stevens and first appeared in 1978. Riding the ‘disco wave’ in 1979, it belatedly became an international hit, reaching Number 6 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ singles chart in the U.S.A. It did even better in the U.K. where it spent three weeks at Number 1 in the ‘U.K. Singles Chart’ in November 1979.
Recorded at ‘Muscle Shoals Sound Studio’, Alabama the song was an international hit and hit peaked position in the different country charts:
Australia: Peaked at Number20
Austria: Peaked at Number 14
Belgium: Peaked at Number 2
Canada: Peaked at Number7
Holland: Peaked at Number 2
Germany: Peaked at Number 8
Ireland: Reached Number 1
New Zealand: Peaked at Number 2
Spain: Peaked at Number 11
United Kingdom: Reached Number 1
I have always gone out with and been attached to beautiful women in my life since my teenage years, and while I do not consider myself as being the jealous type, I must admit that having a beautiful partner on one’s arm has been known to create all manner of difficulty for some couples. And this applies whether one’s beautiful partner is either male or female.
On ever so many occasions, numerous women (including my mother) have indicated that if women are wise, they will steer well clear of the Adonis six-pack type when selecting partners. Being so beautiful in face and body, such men have a long-established reputation for being unfaithful as a partner and forever having a posse of women in hot pursuit. (There is always the occasional exception of course).
Where beautiful women are concerned, some are selected by powerful and wealthy men as desirable ‘trophies’ they carry around on their arm, some are selected for appearing to be sensuous beings, and some are selected because of the inner beauty they possess. Let me say from the start that the reasons behind my choice to be with the women in my life have usually been in the latter category.
Those women who were chosen in the category one bracket, when their good looks fade and disappear, so will their ‘Sugar Daddy’. By the time they reach 40 years of age, their man will have exchanged them for a couple of twenty-year-old beauties. Those women in the second category of male choice will either have demonstrated their sexual prowess or not within a few months of the start of the relationships. If they are found wanting, they will soon be cast off in preference of someone more sexually alluring, and if they come up to satisfaction, the bulk of their next twenty-five years will be spent exercising at the gym three hours daily, doing a 10 kilometre run weekly, and learning to eat and digest all manner of obnoxious-tasting foods that is the standard diet of stick insects. As for the odd gin and tonic; forget it darling as it’s no good for the female figure according to ‘Sugar Daddy’.
As a Probation Officer for almost thirty years, I often witnessed over possessive and extremely jealous men who kept so a tight rein on their partner's movements and activities, that the lives of the women were ruined. Such control freaks would go to extreme lengths to check that their wives were not cheating on them when they happened to be outside their company.
I even recall one young woman who had been left her mother’s bungalow after her mum had died. She and her jealous partner eventually moved into the bungalow to live, so that they could save on rental outlay they otherwise would have spent. The savings turned out to be extra drinking monies for the male partner who controlled her to the extent that (being a bungalow with a normal size window inside the loo), the woman was never allowed to close the door whenever she was on the toilet, just in case she tried to make a run for it by jumping out of the window!
I knew of another woman whom a Probation colleague supervised and visited in prison. She’d been in cohabitation with a man whom initially persuaded her he would be good to live with but once he got his feet over her doormat, she quickly discovered him to be a highly jealous partner who became a ‘control freak’.
Initially, he falsely accused her of making eyes at other men when they were out together, so confined her to the house. He then became physically and emotionally abusive and would regularly hit her with his fist (usually after drinking a large amount of alcohol). After she had been in the relationship for one year, she became too scared for her own safety to try to leave it.
The one occasion she drummed up the courage and left her partner, he followed her across three counties and when he eventually tracked her down, he cornered her and mercilessly beat her. He threatened to kill her if she ever left him again and being terrified that he would, she dare not run away ever again.
He wanted children to their union and although she seemed to go along with his wishes, she secretly took the birth control pill; not wanting to have any child to such a vicious brute of a man.
After two years of continuous sex between the couple, often against her expressed will, when the woman failed to conceive, he beat her and blamed her for being the infertile one. He knew he wasn’t infertile as he’d already fathered a child to a Manchester schoolgirl when he was 16 years old and she was only 14 years old. That child was taken into Care and he was charged with Unlawful Sexual Intercourse with a Minor, for which he was sent to Borstal for two years.
Eventually, the battered woman was too scared to leave him but had also become too scared to stay living with him. So, she took the first opportunity that came her way to rid herself of this monster. She killed him one night when he came home drunk and fell fast asleep on the sofa. Her choice of weapon was a kitchen knife which she plunged repeatedly into his chest; and as the Mad Monk, Rasputin who refused to die immediately after being poisoned with cakes and wine and shot multiple times, it took the battered woman several knife stabs to finish him off. She was eventually sentenced at Crown Court to two years imprisonment but was at last free of the brute.
Fortunately, in most instances when a man or woman has a partner of beautiful face and body, any prevailing jealousy is usually taken care of by the ‘watchful eye’ and the removal of any social temptation that may occasionally stir up fond memories of that single woman feeling; like attending a friend’s hen party in Dublin or Amsterdam.
It would seem that there are no lengths that some men (and occasionally women), will go to whenever they are ‘In Love with a Beautiful Woman’.
Love and Peace Bill xxx