Today’s song is ‘You Needed Me’. This song is a song written by Randy Goodrum, who describes it as being about "unconditional love". The song was a Number 1 hit single in the United States in 1978 for Canadian singer Anne Murray, for which she won a Grammy Award. In 1999, Irish pop band Boyzone recorded a hit cover of the song that reached Number 1 in the ‘UK Singles Chart’ and also Number 1 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100 Chart’.
'You Needed Me’ was first recorded by singer Anne Murray in 1978. The song peaked at Number 1 on the ‘Billboard Hot 100’ chart and revitalized her career after several years of declining popularity as it became her first Top 40 US single since 1974. The song earned Murray the ‘Grammy Award for Best Female Pop Vocal Performance’ at the 21st Grammy Awards and was also the first to be awarded to a Canadian artist.
Anne Murray re-recorded the song with Shania Twain for Murray's 2007 album ‘Duets: Friends and Legends’. The song was also covered by Boyzone in 1999 and it became their sixth and final single to reach Number 1 on the ‘UK Singles Chart’ outselling the debut solo single of Spice Girl Geri Halliwell by just 700 copies.
There are many people in this world whom we believe we need around us to make us happy or to keep us happy. Even when we have the very best of parents, sibling relationships, the best of lovers, partners or spouses in our lives, none actually ‘make us happy’. We are undoubtedly happier as a result of these people being in our lives, but they do not make us happy.
The most important thing that any individual can ever acknowledge is that happiness springs from themselves. ‘I MAKE ME HAPPY, ME AND NOBODY ELSE’!
One’s happiness starts from within themselves and is reflected more brightly when we are surrounded by certain people who lead us to being as happy as we can possibly feel. So while we may often say that ‘we need somebody’, it would be inaccurate to say that ‘we need somebody to make us happy’ or to believe that however much we love the people around us that there does not exist in the world other people who we are as capable of loving as much, given a change of significant circumstances being forced on us.
I have met many people who have had the happiest of relationships with a partner who sadly died. Indeed, some had been so happy with their lost partner that they believed such happiness could never be found with another. They become resigned to their sense of loss instead of being reconciled with it, and as a consequence, they mothball their happy experiences in their memory mausoleum and live their remaining life in a state of permanent bereavement whereby all emotional access to their heart is closed off by the road deterrent sign. ‘Been there. Done that. Collected the t-shirt!’ So many possibilities are then closed off to them ever again experiencing lasting love with another partner.
I dedicate my song today to my Facebook friend, Sally Kavourmas from Ireland. It is Sally’s birthday today, and yet despite the specialness of the occasion, Sally is coping with circumstances in her life, that quite frankly, too many of us would shy away from. Note that I say, ‘Sally is coping with…’ and not that ‘Sally is having to cope with…’. The overall situation and the circumstances that Sally’s coping with today is being carried out through her ‘choice’ to do what she believes to be the right thing to do and not because it is either a role or responsibility that anyone could/should/would expect of her.
Sally is one of the most compassionate women I know of. She is a person who does not take her responsibilities and commitments lightly. She has never failed to be there whenever her family and loved ones have needed her. I hope that her special day, the anniversary of the first day Sally drew breath, is one in which peace and a sense of happiness can act as the most embalming of companions throughout and to continue to give her the strength to do what she wants to do over the months ahead. Happy birthday, Sally and thank you for being my Facebook friend. Bill x
Love and peace Bill xxx