There are also four Facebook friends who celebrate their birthday alongside mine today. They are (1) Geraldine O Neill, and (2) Margaret Kelly, both of whom lives in Carrick-on-Suir, Tipperary, Ireland. (3) Paul McGrath who lives in Waterford, Ireland. (4) Liz Venables who lives in Johnson, Pembrokeshire. Enjoy your special day, Geraldine, Margaret, Paul, and Liz, and thank you for being my Facebook friends.
My song today is from the film ‘The Commitments'; a 1994 musical comedy-drama based on the 1987 novel of the same name by Roddy Doyle. The hit song to come out of the movie was 'Try a little Tenderness'.
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In today's hard life, 'tenderness' has become a much under-rated quality, but it nevertheless remains the manifestation of personal strength, the finest endeavour and most sympathetic of resolutions. 'Tenderness' is the quickest and most certain of roads for one human winning over the heart of another. When one expresses 'tenderness', one conquers by loving, understanding, caring and forgiveness. The very first act of ‘tenderness’ I can recall receiving was in the loving arms and reassuring embrace of my mother.
There is no soother balm than the tender touch of another, be they your mother, brother, sister, lover, wife, or friend. Expressing 'tenderness’ involves an automatic acceptance of the person and their situation, and if needed, the presence of forgiveness is always in the background of any possible offence given or taken. Once we can accept the other person for who they are (not necessarily for what they have done), as well as forgive their failings, a remarkable transformation in the relationship bond occurs.
‘Tenderness’ and ‘love’ arise spontaneously as natural bedfellows and they share a pillow of peace in each other’s heart. To 'try a little tenderness' is to acknowledge that nothing is too small to care about in the feelings department of the human wardrobe and no obstacle is too large to surmount. People who mean the most to us are not necessarily those who give advice, provide solutions or administer cures for our ailments, but are instead those who choose to share our pain, marry our worried minds with mutual understanding and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand that communicates to us the unmistakable message of ‘I care for you’. If we are lucky to find our soul mate and the person we are fated to spend the rest of our life with, we will also discover that all our 'saved up wishes' will have finally found their natural home in the heart of another in which our most precious of dreams can come true.
Your future happiness is out there somewhere in the heart of someone who is waiting for you, but you shall only find it when you look in the right places. Look not for tenderness or touch of affection on dating sites such as 'Tinder' or seek that catch you have long sought to hook on to on dating sites such as 'Plenty of Fish'. Your soul mate is out there waiting for you, and you are more likely to recognise them if you know where to look for them and how to recognise them when they stand before you. It helps if you look for the characteristics of the man or woman who is right for you, rather than to scan the faces of those who instantly attract your gaze and physical impulse. Search them out by their behaviour and deeds. Know them not by their shape, size and look, or any other physical attribute they may display on the surface. Instead, look inwardly for the soulmate of your dreams.
In many ways, finding the right soulmate is done easier by a blind person as opposed to a sighted individual. While our eyes are marvellous organs of visual appearance, they have not x-ray ability to discern the inner workings of another’s heart, or see the content of another’s mind, or understand the intent of the actions and true feelings of another toward you. It is only when the other person’s feelings touch your sensibilities and instinctively invite you to move closer to them that you will know you are in the presence of someone special and that your search is at an end. It is this feeling that will tell you that you are within striking distance of your goal of finding a suitable partner and lifelong soul mate. Do not worry that you will miss the vital signs that you are close to your soul mate as you won’t. Once your body is within striking distance to theirs, you will be naturally attracted and drawn toward each other with the force of a love magnet beyond your imagination, and once you have touched each other for the first time, it will take a team of wild horses to pull you apart!
One’s eyes are often deceived, whereas one’s feelings are rarely wrong. So, allow your heart to map out all places where your eyes should look; all those places where human pockets of truth, honesty, faithfulness, sensitivity, compassion, acceptance, forgiveness and wholesome goodness naturally reside; for it is there that you are most likely to find these inextricable strands of good character wrapped up in a huge ball of lasting love and human tenderness.
Love and peace Bill xxx