Thought for today:
"In a world where the cult of individualism is most popular with the modern woman, it seems an anachronism that there is one topic upon which all females think alike and agree upon; 'man's one track mind.' Indeed, their view is so commonly held, it could be argued to have originated from one female brain and transferred to the heads of millions of other women over two millenniums of morning coffee with the girls.
In the tug of war that witnesses the battle for supremacy between the ideas of women and men, allow me to dispel a few myths, ladies. Firstly, any woman who thinks that sex is the one thing which occupies the mind of man must has never heard of football. Place any woman's body in direct opposition to a good football match on television and see who gets pushed out! The only chance any woman will have in this situation is to wait for the half time interval, and that strategy will only work if the woman makes herself highly appealing, is not adverse to 'a quickie'; especially if the match is boring.
Secondly, most women believe that if it is presented on a plate, a hungry man does not possess the will power to turn down the offer. Let me tell you, ladies, the issue is not one of temptation, but more of manners. The simple truth is that the reason men tend to say 'No' far less often than women do, is simply 'not to offend.' Should any woman offer any man her honour, no gentleman worth his salt would do other than to honour her offering graciously. It's the only man thing to do, as it's in the breeding of the species, you see!
Thirdly, it's a fallacy that men always want it more than women do. I'll never forget one session of marriage counselling I did with a couple in Batley. Not surprisingly, apart from the areas of poor communication between the couple, allied to the presence of unreasonable expectations, the greatest problem appeared to be that the man's wife wanted to make love far more often than her husband did. He undoubtedly felt a constant pressure to perform. Indeed, he went on to describe the matrimonial bed as being his prison where only morning light released him from his nightly sentence. The simple truth is that for some, sex eases tension, whereas others genuinely know, it causes it!
Fourthly, to the minds of many philosophers, 'trust between couples'; an often-claimed boast of many marriages, in which neither partner has ever strayed, is largely a spurious thing that remains non-existent in reality, and rarely becomes operative. The most recent study/research done on infidelity revealed that between 30 and 60 per cent of marriages will witness unfaithfulness by one partner during it, although most acts of infidelity are rarely discovered by the innocent partner (see Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). Mostly, it is the man who is unfaithful, but during the past twenty years, married women's infidelity has significantly increased in tandem with their greater independence and access to more money and the abolition of many glass ceilings in the job market.
I once knew a married man who went to evening classes every Thursday evening. He had been attending his evening classes for over two years before some 'kind neighbour' of his wife reported having seen him in the arms of another woman at a Dewsbury pub. Initially she refused to believe that her husband was cheating on her, adding that she knew he and a few of the other class members called for a drink before coming home and felt sure that it was something entirely innocent which had made him publicly hug another woman. The wife told her neighbour that she trusted her husband implicitly. Eventually, her suspicions and doubts, having been raised by her neighbour, grew; until one Thursday evening, she decided to call into the pub herself to see if anything was going on that shouldn't have been. There, she saw the irrefutable evidence before her own eyes. Sitting in a corner were two people, obviously too close for comfort; one her husband and the other an attractive dark haired woman at least ten years younger than herself. They seemed to be holding hands, until the husband noticed the presence of his wife and automatically uncoupled. Naturally, when the married couple got back home, they had a big row, during which the wife threatened immediate separation and divorce if her husband continued to make feeble excuses of denial. The upshot was that the husband eventually admitted to having had a short affair, and after swearing it was the only affair he'd had since their marriage, he promised he would never stray again and pleaded for another chance. The cheated wife reluctantly agreed to give him another chance for the sake of their two young children.
Now, until the moment she discovered that her husband had been unfaithful to her with another woman, his wife truly believed she had trusted him. Believe me, she may have professed trust, but she didn't have it to give. You see, trust cannot exist in any situation in which its breach is not possible by the absence of opportunity. Hence, most men who have stayed faithful to one woman all their married life, may have stayed faithful because they've never had the opportunity to do otherwise, when neither chance nor conscience didn't prevent them. The simple truth is that trust cannot come into play until it has been breached! For example, had the husband at a future date expressed his desire to return to attending his Thursday evening classes, and had his wife agreed, knowing that 'the other woman' still attended the same class; now, that is what I call trust!
Finally, women are not the only species who believes that sex without love is a less meaningful experience than when two people are in love. It's just that most men believe that everyone should be able to do something occasionally, for no other reason than the sheer hell of it.
Another thing; any good psychologist will tell you that the quickest way towards women stopping being sex objects in the eyes of men is to stop objecting to sex as often as they do. This seems to work on the simple principle that what you can't have, you want more and what you can get as easily as falling off a log, no longer lights your fire!
I will now end this subject (it being so close to the edge reason in the mind of woman), with a long held belief of mine. When all the water's been drained from the cooking pot of life, all existence is reduced to little more than 'getting' and 'begetting.'" William Forde: October 2nd, 2016.
"In a world where the cult of individualism is most popular with the modern woman, it seems an anachronism that there is one topic upon which all females think alike and agree upon; 'man's one track mind.' Indeed, their view is so commonly held, it could be argued to have originated from one female brain and transferred to the heads of millions of other women over two millenniums of morning coffee with the girls.
In the tug of war that witnesses the battle for supremacy between the ideas of women and men, allow me to dispel a few myths, ladies. Firstly, any woman who thinks that sex is the one thing which occupies the mind of man must has never heard of football. Place any woman's body in direct opposition to a good football match on television and see who gets pushed out! The only chance any woman will have in this situation is to wait for the half time interval, and that strategy will only work if the woman makes herself highly appealing, is not adverse to 'a quickie'; especially if the match is boring.
Secondly, most women believe that if it is presented on a plate, a hungry man does not possess the will power to turn down the offer. Let me tell you, ladies, the issue is not one of temptation, but more of manners. The simple truth is that the reason men tend to say 'No' far less often than women do, is simply 'not to offend.' Should any woman offer any man her honour, no gentleman worth his salt would do other than to honour her offering graciously. It's the only man thing to do, as it's in the breeding of the species, you see!
Thirdly, it's a fallacy that men always want it more than women do. I'll never forget one session of marriage counselling I did with a couple in Batley. Not surprisingly, apart from the areas of poor communication between the couple, allied to the presence of unreasonable expectations, the greatest problem appeared to be that the man's wife wanted to make love far more often than her husband did. He undoubtedly felt a constant pressure to perform. Indeed, he went on to describe the matrimonial bed as being his prison where only morning light released him from his nightly sentence. The simple truth is that for some, sex eases tension, whereas others genuinely know, it causes it!
Fourthly, to the minds of many philosophers, 'trust between couples'; an often-claimed boast of many marriages, in which neither partner has ever strayed, is largely a spurious thing that remains non-existent in reality, and rarely becomes operative. The most recent study/research done on infidelity revealed that between 30 and 60 per cent of marriages will witness unfaithfulness by one partner during it, although most acts of infidelity are rarely discovered by the innocent partner (see Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). Mostly, it is the man who is unfaithful, but during the past twenty years, married women's infidelity has significantly increased in tandem with their greater independence and access to more money and the abolition of many glass ceilings in the job market.
I once knew a married man who went to evening classes every Thursday evening. He had been attending his evening classes for over two years before some 'kind neighbour' of his wife reported having seen him in the arms of another woman at a Dewsbury pub. Initially she refused to believe that her husband was cheating on her, adding that she knew he and a few of the other class members called for a drink before coming home and felt sure that it was something entirely innocent which had made him publicly hug another woman. The wife told her neighbour that she trusted her husband implicitly. Eventually, her suspicions and doubts, having been raised by her neighbour, grew; until one Thursday evening, she decided to call into the pub herself to see if anything was going on that shouldn't have been. There, she saw the irrefutable evidence before her own eyes. Sitting in a corner were two people, obviously too close for comfort; one her husband and the other an attractive dark haired woman at least ten years younger than herself. They seemed to be holding hands, until the husband noticed the presence of his wife and automatically uncoupled. Naturally, when the married couple got back home, they had a big row, during which the wife threatened immediate separation and divorce if her husband continued to make feeble excuses of denial. The upshot was that the husband eventually admitted to having had a short affair, and after swearing it was the only affair he'd had since their marriage, he promised he would never stray again and pleaded for another chance. The cheated wife reluctantly agreed to give him another chance for the sake of their two young children.
Now, until the moment she discovered that her husband had been unfaithful to her with another woman, his wife truly believed she had trusted him. Believe me, she may have professed trust, but she didn't have it to give. You see, trust cannot exist in any situation in which its breach is not possible by the absence of opportunity. Hence, most men who have stayed faithful to one woman all their married life, may have stayed faithful because they've never had the opportunity to do otherwise, when neither chance nor conscience didn't prevent them. The simple truth is that trust cannot come into play until it has been breached! For example, had the husband at a future date expressed his desire to return to attending his Thursday evening classes, and had his wife agreed, knowing that 'the other woman' still attended the same class; now, that is what I call trust!
Finally, women are not the only species who believes that sex without love is a less meaningful experience than when two people are in love. It's just that most men believe that everyone should be able to do something occasionally, for no other reason than the sheer hell of it.
Another thing; any good psychologist will tell you that the quickest way towards women stopping being sex objects in the eyes of men is to stop objecting to sex as often as they do. This seems to work on the simple principle that what you can't have, you want more and what you can get as easily as falling off a log, no longer lights your fire!
I will now end this subject (it being so close to the edge reason in the mind of woman), with a long held belief of mine. When all the water's been drained from the cooking pot of life, all existence is reduced to little more than 'getting' and 'begetting.'" William Forde: October 2nd, 2016.
