Thought for today:
"In the courtship stakes, I have to admit (modesty to one side for a moment), that I have never been alone or in want of companionship very long before being able to attract a good looking woman to my side. Since my teenage years, I have always been popular among my peers, and being a decent dancer seemed an important gateway that gained me entrance to many a fair maiden's arms. I was always reasonably attractive, never vulgar in mannerisms, always positive in attitude, confident in action and clever enough in conversation. While no doubt these character traits held some sway in making myself a more appealing catch to some of the opposite sex, I know deep down what the clincher was; I know what it was that made me that little bit different from most other chaps. It was simply the fact, that for over half of my life, I'd been a 'bad boy' who most young women could sense would one day become a 'good man'.
I don't know what it is about women, but so many of the good lookers on the planet invariably seem to gravitate towards the 'bad boy.' It seems to suggest that unless they can hold a bomb in their hands that is likely to go off without advanced warning, they cannot get sufficient buzz out of life to stimulate and satisfy them. It is only when they possess the power to explode and defuse man's mind and manipulate his emotions that they feel in control of the situation.The nearest explanation I can come up with is that they perceive both pleasure and risk as something akin to having an affair of the heart. It is as though women cannot pass through life and simply enjoy the relationships that come their way for what they offer. Instead, they invariably have this need to view most of the men they go out with as being a project; 'a work in progress.'
Many women, especially Scorpios, relish the risk of their attachment to a 'bad boy', and while it lasts, it is the only thing that gets them up on a morning, gives them something to look forward to throughout the day, and satisfies them at night.
Just as men know women who make great lovers but poor wives, most women also share a similar experience. Where women go wrong, however, is the belief that once they have managed to get their 'bad boy' down the marriage aisle that they can preserve him as being a lifelong 'bad boy' to themselves only, and a 'good man' to everyone else! To such degree do they hope to change him before the wedding cake becomes too hard to swallow and digest. Within a year or two of marriage, they often find that their partner has returned to his traits of old and that his wife has become just one more woman in his life; another female waiting in his line of conquests.
Women are at their most fragile and their romances at their most dangerous when all they want is 'to be loved and wanted'. At this stage of their life, they are quite prepared to exchange what the man wants physically for what they crave emotionally.
Women have always found something attractive about mystery, especially when it is attached to danger. Because 'bad boys' don't play by the rules in the 'love stakes', this gives them a distinct advantage and enables them to win out more often. There is something about the chase, the falling in love, the total giving of oneself to another that most women find compelling. The 'bad boy' is a man who allows this to happen and knows how to keep it going through an entire relationship, while the woman never knows if she has them or not. That's why the ending of such relationships for women is so emotionally hard to get over after they've invested all they had to give!
In my experience, whereas 'bad boys' may get the first pick of the girls, they never manage to keep them unless they are prepared to change their ways. Trying to change a 'bad boy' into your 'good man' however, is often just too hard for any woman to accomplish. Changing a 'bad boy' can be as impossible as finding an overripe apple on the turn and not expecting ever to taste its rotten side. In such circumstances, there is no future in its keeping. Change is only ever likely to come around when the 'bad boy' is the one who wants to change!
Wise women who love and respect themselves love 'good men' as opposed to 'bad boys.' While their earlier experiences have led them to know that 'bad boys' can be exciting, maturity has taught them that in 'The Love Stakes' it is 'good men' who go much farther and are likely to stay the course.
For some women, though, I guess that the challenge to find a rough diamond, yet see the quality of the gem at its heart will prove irresistible. Few independent women are able to resist a 'bad boy' whom they believe they can turn into a 'good man', especially if they happen to find him at the right time in his life when he doesn't want to be bad anymore. What do you think, Sheila?" William Forde: November 24th, 2016.
https://youtu.be/la1UEieSwB8For some women, though, I guess that the challenge to find a rough diamond, yet see the quality of the gem at its heart will always prove irresistible.
"In the courtship stakes, I have to admit (modesty to one side for a moment), that I have never been alone or in want of companionship very long before being able to attract a good looking woman to my side. Since my teenage years, I have always been popular among my peers, and being a decent dancer seemed an important gateway that gained me entrance to many a fair maiden's arms. I was always reasonably attractive, never vulgar in mannerisms, always positive in attitude, confident in action and clever enough in conversation. While no doubt these character traits held some sway in making myself a more appealing catch to some of the opposite sex, I know deep down what the clincher was; I know what it was that made me that little bit different from most other chaps. It was simply the fact, that for over half of my life, I'd been a 'bad boy' who most young women could sense would one day become a 'good man'.
I don't know what it is about women, but so many of the good lookers on the planet invariably seem to gravitate towards the 'bad boy.' It seems to suggest that unless they can hold a bomb in their hands that is likely to go off without advanced warning, they cannot get sufficient buzz out of life to stimulate and satisfy them. It is only when they possess the power to explode and defuse man's mind and manipulate his emotions that they feel in control of the situation.The nearest explanation I can come up with is that they perceive both pleasure and risk as something akin to having an affair of the heart. It is as though women cannot pass through life and simply enjoy the relationships that come their way for what they offer. Instead, they invariably have this need to view most of the men they go out with as being a project; 'a work in progress.'
Many women, especially Scorpios, relish the risk of their attachment to a 'bad boy', and while it lasts, it is the only thing that gets them up on a morning, gives them something to look forward to throughout the day, and satisfies them at night.
Just as men know women who make great lovers but poor wives, most women also share a similar experience. Where women go wrong, however, is the belief that once they have managed to get their 'bad boy' down the marriage aisle that they can preserve him as being a lifelong 'bad boy' to themselves only, and a 'good man' to everyone else! To such degree do they hope to change him before the wedding cake becomes too hard to swallow and digest. Within a year or two of marriage, they often find that their partner has returned to his traits of old and that his wife has become just one more woman in his life; another female waiting in his line of conquests.
Women are at their most fragile and their romances at their most dangerous when all they want is 'to be loved and wanted'. At this stage of their life, they are quite prepared to exchange what the man wants physically for what they crave emotionally.
Women have always found something attractive about mystery, especially when it is attached to danger. Because 'bad boys' don't play by the rules in the 'love stakes', this gives them a distinct advantage and enables them to win out more often. There is something about the chase, the falling in love, the total giving of oneself to another that most women find compelling. The 'bad boy' is a man who allows this to happen and knows how to keep it going through an entire relationship, while the woman never knows if she has them or not. That's why the ending of such relationships for women is so emotionally hard to get over after they've invested all they had to give!
In my experience, whereas 'bad boys' may get the first pick of the girls, they never manage to keep them unless they are prepared to change their ways. Trying to change a 'bad boy' into your 'good man' however, is often just too hard for any woman to accomplish. Changing a 'bad boy' can be as impossible as finding an overripe apple on the turn and not expecting ever to taste its rotten side. In such circumstances, there is no future in its keeping. Change is only ever likely to come around when the 'bad boy' is the one who wants to change!
Wise women who love and respect themselves love 'good men' as opposed to 'bad boys.' While their earlier experiences have led them to know that 'bad boys' can be exciting, maturity has taught them that in 'The Love Stakes' it is 'good men' who go much farther and are likely to stay the course.
For some women, though, I guess that the challenge to find a rough diamond, yet see the quality of the gem at its heart will prove irresistible. Few independent women are able to resist a 'bad boy' whom they believe they can turn into a 'good man', especially if they happen to find him at the right time in his life when he doesn't want to be bad anymore. What do you think, Sheila?" William Forde: November 24th, 2016.
https://youtu.be/la1UEieSwB8For some women, though, I guess that the challenge to find a rough diamond, yet see the quality of the gem at its heart will always prove irresistible.
