"We all have a secret past to some degree; things we did in our earlier life that we may not wish to be reminded of or for which we remain deeply ashamed or embarrassed. It is worth reminding oneself that no one comes to a new relationship without a past and if your partner's drawer is neat and tidy when opened, leave it alone without seeking the need to rummage in all its corners. What you learn by unwilling contribution is often more likely to destroy your happiness and relationship than what you aren't aware of.
Things left unsaid or undisclosed are rarely done accidentally. Those things of the past which have been kept secret from you have usually been left undisclosed for good purpose. After all; take away a person's right to have a recess of their mind which only they have access to, and you may as well take away their means of all peace and mental reconciliation, along with their right to have coffee and a chat with a close friend or seek solace in their potting shed at the bottom of the garden.
After all, given the current absence of peace in the world today, a little cross-dressing isn't going to start 'World War Three', especially when there is much more in the bedroom of one's past to discover. " William Forde : May 2nd, 2017.