"The one thing about letting yourself get so low, is that there is only way you can then go; back up again! As with many addictions and adverse conditions, I believe that one often has to reach rock bottom before the determination to quit one's old lifestyle can exist in strong enough measure to bring about the required change.
Be you a repeat offender, an alcoholic, an obese individual, a drug addict or whatever, it is as though you have to risk the forfeiture of your life, your freedom, your marriage, your health, your home, your family, your job, your happiness, along with all hope and self respect before you are prepared to change.
When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves and the behaviours which support our affliction. Sadly, it is part of the human condition, but often our lives have to come crashing down around us before we are forced to accept that something is drastically wrong and that we need to consider big changes in it.
When we resist a change in the direction our lives demand and continue to muscle through hardships, we become exhausted with the constant need to swim upstream. Change often requires nothing less than turning ourself around and allowing our body to go with the flow. It is only when we have nothing left to lose that we surrender to the current; only then can we see we have nothing to gain by swimming against the tide of common sense. When everything is no longer sure in our lives, only then can anything seem possible.
Changing one's life around is never easy, it requires a great deal of consistency and hard work. People who have succeeded in this often feel that it is better to start again, because stripping things bare can create new possibilities. Too many of us hold on to old wounds as a testament to what we suffered and though we still see the scars, we should make them something we observe instead of something we still feel at the core. Only when things feels right can we be sure that they are right for us.
Accept that just because we reach rock bottom during any stage of our life, does not mean we are destined to stay there. To climb out of the hole we dug for ourselves, we need to observe past mistakes and learn from them. Only then are we able to make rock bottom the solid foundation on which to rebuild our life." William Forde: May 16th, 2016.