"When life is good to us and we are having fun or are engaged in one of our favourite activities and pastimes, time just seems to fly Conversely; when life is hard and we feel constantly bored and fed up, life will inevitably drag out the misery to be had.
I feel so sorry for anyone who finds life a bore. I feel sure that they are not engaging their mind and body in a way that leads to natural improvement. In fact, during my life I have known a number of pessimists who seem to deliberately go out of their way to spoil their life by tarnishing everything they touch and debasing all they encounter. The main problem with this type of response is that it inevitably leads to potentially sweet experiences being soured, tender feelings of others being hurt, along with the ultimate rejection; the debasement of one's self-image and respect.
Oh, how I wish I had my life to live all over again. There is so little I'd change, but I would get so much pleasure to looking forward to the next seven decades. My work with people over the years has essentially led me to conclude that 'boredom' will always remain the greatest enemy of becoming involved with life. Research has shown that 'boredom' is closely associated with 'frustration' and that the prime effect of being frustrated is that one invariably becomes irritable, develops a rebellious opposition; concluding in withdrawal from life and a total rejection of the whole show!
My evaluation of people's response patterns of behaviour over twenty-five years soon taught me that people who withdraw from life out of boredom usually hold a belief or conviction that they, others, or circumstances which surround them will not change. The other two most consistent pieces of behaviour revealed by them is that they do not show their true emotions and they do not do anything they don't have to do and; often they don't even do that!
Consequently, any successful work done with such people involves their acceptance of the belief that things can change for the better. They should be advised that it is wise to do as much as one can with as many different people one encounters as often as the opportunity arises and finally; always express one's true emotions if one ever wishes to leave the starting blocks in one's race through life.
I recall my late mum telling me as a child, 'Billy Forde, if you're going to be boring, do it over there away from me. Spoil your day by all means, but don't try to spoil mine!'" William Forde: February 18th, 2017.
