"'Instead of procrastinating for the rest of your life, why don't you just take a deep breath for once and simply 'go for it!' You've been farting about on that old glacier for the past four years saying, 'Will I.....Won't I.....Will I.....Won't I?'
Well if you don't test out the water now, it's your loss, Buster. Test it out now while you've got the courage to bounce back if you hit rock bottom. Haven't you ever heard that the desire for safety is what stands against every great and brave act?
Come on, Buster, I believe in you! I know you can do it if you try. Don't let perfection of performance stand in your way. If you can't dive, then just allow yourself to fall, Falling has never been an indicator of failure, but merely a prelude to getting back up.'
Everyone usually gets to a stage in life when they are prepared to throw caution to the wind and ''Go for it', especially when the 'it' should have been pursued long ago but fear and caution of leaving one's comfort zone held one back. This is invariably a time in life when, 'Going for it' is more important than winning or losing, and becomes a matter of self-respect.
During thirty years of running groups of anxious, frightened people who lacked self confidence and a belief that they were capable of doing things or ever amounting to much in the eyes of others, the one thing I always sought to get across to them was that we only become capable of reaching new horizons after we are prepared to lose sight of the shore. It mattered not whether it was a housewife who dreamed of running her own business, a stressed city worker who would love to live a simpler life and hold a less stressful job in the fresh air of the countryside even if it meant a significant reduction in income, or a young person wanting to leave home to set up in their own flat without a parental safety net; all these people types naturally fear having to step out of their comfort zones as it is far easier to stay with what one knows. I always knew that at the moment of decision to significantly change one's life, one had the clear choice of choosing courage or comfort; never both! It takes courage to become who you are and confidence to discover what you are truly capable of doing.
Why not try giving yourself permission to do something you have never done before; something you have always wanted to do but dare not? Have you ever wondered what would happen? Well, there is only one way to find out and that is to 'Go for it'.
People who fall into the cautious categories identified above are usually the very same people who find it too risky to give love a chance, or even 'a second chance', particularly if they have been hurt in the past or experienced prior rejection. Let me tell you from my own personal experience that to get the best, one must be prepared to risk being dumped by the best if they do not find you up to scratch. I believe in Bertrand Russel's sentiments when he said, 'Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.'
I have always held the view that going for one's dreams doesn't require a bigger safety net, rather larger wings. I will end today's post by quoting the French poet, Guillaume Apollinaire:
'Come to the edge, He said.
They said: We are afraid.
Come to the edge, He said.
They came. He pushed them,
And they flew.....'
" William Forde: August 23rd, 2018.