"Instead of crying yourself a river, put your anger and energy into building yourself a bridge and learn to get over it! The past can really hurt, but believe me, moving on can be so rewarding when you are able to see ahead once more.
In today's fast society, everyone wants to get everywhere too soon and without employing any effort. Gone are long term engagements, designed to let two people get to know each other much better before they decide if they are suitable partners to marry each other. Today, one is just as likely to be finding a much wanted soul mate at first outing on the latest dating site, marrying them within a month of first meeting, only to discover down the line that you are incompatible and are divorced within the year.
There is no hurt that wounds as deeply as a failed marriage. Often the scars take half a life time to properly heal. For most divorcees, experiencing a marriage break up is like being emotionally flattened by a ten-ton runaway truck. It always results in the re-emergence of 'trust issues', especially when entering new relationships/situations. You proceed with extreme caution and learn to look left and right, before moving on with your life again.
For those who can move on and learn to trust their own judgement again when picking a soul mate, the rewards are tremendous and can bring untold happiness that was never expected. That's the strange thing about finding true love and real happiness; each are more likely to enter our lives when least expected. Some foolish chasers of romance fall into the trap of having a relationship with a married man who promises to leave his wife and family, but never does. They often find themselves waiting a lifetime for one person and getting nothing, when all they want from life may be found with another in one moment.
We should never be afraid to lose, that which was never meant to be; we should never be frightened to turn off the lights of mocking uncertainty. I have always believed there is an unbreakable connection between healing self and healing others, and if this be true, it emphasises the dependency we each have on others in our sense of well being.
The simple truth is that true love rarely shows its face to the frantic searcher. Stressing what you don't have is futile. If you should have it, if you were fated to have it, then, you would have it! Sometimes one has to undergo the hardship of relationship breakup to rediscover two fundamental truths; that we are not always what we are cracked up to be, and that because we lost one thing that we highly valued, doesn't mean the loss of all things.
We are much more than our relationship with another, but are never any less than our relationship with self. As Cliff used to say, 'Move it!' " William Forde: August 18th, 2016.